(Closed) When to tell aunts/uncles/cousins

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: When to tell relatives who will be at cousin's wedding? Will be ~17 weeks along.
    Call people individually around 14-16 weeks and just tell them on the phone : (7 votes)
    18 %
    Give MIL permission to tell her siblings (our aunts/uncles) and just call cousins individually : (25 votes)
    64 %
    Tell people discreetly at wedding events : (0 votes)
    Wait until after the wedding : (6 votes)
    15 %
    Other? Tell me below. : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    1114 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I wouldn’t wait until your cousins wedding to tell people. Even if you do it discreetly, it would still have a vibe of “stealing their thunder”. I would probably tell everyone before, either by phone calls or email, and then have them be able to congratulate you in person at the wedding.

    Plus, at 17 weeks, there is a good chance you’ll have a cute bump, and it might be awkward between when you show up and people notice, and when you can actually tell them. You don’t want to be the subjec of whispers that take the attention away from the bride and groom.

    Post # 4
    7656 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @ExcitedScaredBee:  +1 I would either tell everyone beforehand or let your MIL.

    Post # 5
    3378 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I’d let your MIL tell everyone earlier, before the wedding.  Like you said, you’ll probably be showing by then, and you don’t want the wedding to become about people talking about your pregnancy (because, really, even if you’re discreet about telling them, people talk).  Anyways, I’m sure she’s excited to spread the news to her family.  This is my plan once we are expecting – tell our families, then let the mothers spread the word once we’re around 12 weeks.  They’ll be so excited to share the news about becoming a grandma!


    Post # 6
    9057 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Yeah, I’d start telling people around the 12-14 week mark and let the family news machine do the rest. By 17 weeks for me it was definitely attracting a side eye and whispers so definitely don’t try to keep it secret. 

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