(Closed) When to Tell Family and Friends

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: When should I tell family and friends?
    Right now - Share the joy : (7 votes)
    28 %
    Wait until 12 weeks : (18 votes)
    72 %
    Let them be suprised- Wait until they can notice it first. : (0 votes)
    Wait until my delivery date : (0 votes)
    Wait until the baby is here : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    2385 posts
    Buzzing bee

    If I were you, I would only tell the people who would be very, very supportive of you if things didn’t work out, and that you trusted not to say anything to other people.

    I’m not sure the answer to your second question.

    Congrats, though! 

    Post # 4
    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would tell my immediate family (mother, dad, sisters) immediately…..only because if I were to miscarry, I would want their love and support. Ultimately, it’s up to you and what you feel comfortable doing.

    Post # 5
    410 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would tell my closest friends/family. You should do whatever you are comfortable with though. It’s definately OK to not tell anyone until you fee comfortable doing so. My brother and SIL didn’t tell anyone about their 1st pregnancy until after 12 weeks.

    Good luck!


    Post # 6
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    If you are comfortable with the idea of potentially explaining to everyone that you miscarried, then there’s nothing wrong with telling them now. Personally when I eventually get pregnant I will definitely want to wait the entire 3 months.

    Post # 7
    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I agree with PPs. I would tell only the people you’re comfortable with going to if you miscarry. My mom and SIL knew the first time we got pregnant, and I was super grateful for their support when we miscarried.

    I really like the pregnancy and baby boards on WB, but the couple who started WB recently started Hellobee.com, which is geared towards pregnancy and parenting. 

    Good luck, and congratulations!

    Post # 8
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think it really depends on your family dynamics. If you aren’t married and this may not be received well by everyone I would wait to tell until after your 1st trimester. Try just telling your immediate support system right now and then wait until 12 weeks to tell anyone else you wish.

    Post # 9
    948 posts
    Busy bee

    My ex and I told our parents, my daughter and my employer at about 8 weeks.  I ended up miscarrying at 3 months.  I have mixed feelings as to whether I would tell anyone that early again. 

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