Post # 16
Thanks everyone for taking the time to comment! My sister definitely wouldn’t feel one-upped on her birthday (in fact, she’s been asking me when we’re going to start trying for a baby) and everyone would be overjoyed but ultimately, it might just be too early and I’d probably not want to explain to everyone if I do have a miscarriage.
Post # 17
ajillity81 : that’s actually exactly what my Darling Husband was saying, like it’s not the end of the world if I have a few sips of wine that one day, WAY before I even share a blood supply. It’ll be hard for me to drink mocktails because whenever we go out with my parents, my dad insists on ordering/paying for everyone’s drinks. Thanks for the reading tip – I’ll definitely look into that!
Post # 18
mrsmckkay : Could you say you drank a lot the night before and are too hungover to even think about booze? That’s worked for me before. Or say you have a really bad headache…
Post # 19
mrsmckkay : sounds like you aren’t comfortable telling them because of your mom’s inability to keep a secret but it’s convenient that’s they’re all there…
we waited until 10 weeks to tell family. We live a few hrs away and it was when we could get there. My mom made one comment about not knowing why I didn’t feel like I couldn’t tell her sooner, but I just explained that it was the first him Darling Husband and I were both there (I had spent a week at her house while traveling for work when I was 6 weeks). It hasn’t been an issue since.
One of the first things my Mother-In-Law said was who can she tell… and wanted us to text her the minute we went live on social media with the news so she could start telling people.
Also, not sure it’s it’s been mentioned but it’s your sisters birthday. Let her have that day.
And finally, if you’re only going to be 4.5 weeks just tell them you didn’t know you were pregnant yet. I had some spotting around that time and was sure I was about to midcarry and was glad we hadn’t done a big exciting announcement to family yet. Say you pushed yourself too hard after strep and it came back, or depending on what you’re doing, that you can be Dear Daughter or something.
Post # 20
We told our immediate families at 5 weeks. If god forbid anything had happened, I would want them to know. I have a huge family as well (my mom is 1 of 8 and dad is 1 of 7), and they were respectful and told no one. They saw it as our news to tell.
Post # 21
If you feel like your brother can keep a secret, maybe pull him aside and explain the situation and just tell him.