When to tell immediate family?

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 18
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6849 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

mrsmckkay :  Could you say you drank a lot the night before and are too hungover to even think about booze? That’s worked for me before. Or say you have a really bad headache…

Post # 19
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1179 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

mrsmckkay :  sounds like you aren’t comfortable telling them because of your mom’s inability to keep a secret but it’s convenient that’s they’re all there… 

we waited until 10 weeks to tell family. We live a few hrs away and it was when we could get there. My mom made one comment about not knowing why I didn’t feel like I couldn’t tell her sooner, but I just explained that it was the first him Darling Husband and I were both there (I had spent a week at her house while traveling for work when I was 6 weeks). It hasn’t been an issue since.

One of the first things my Mother-In-Law said was who can she tell… and wanted us to text her the minute we went live on social media with the news so she could start telling people. 

Also, not sure it’s it’s been mentioned but it’s your sisters birthday. Let her have that day. 

And finally, if you’re only going to be 4.5 weeks just tell them you didn’t know you were pregnant yet. I had some spotting around that time and was sure I was about to midcarry and was glad we hadn’t done a big exciting announcement to family yet. Say you pushed yourself too hard after strep and it came back, or depending on what you’re doing, that you can be Dear Daughter or something. 

Post # 20
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945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We told our immediate families at 5 weeks. If god forbid anything had happened, I would want them to know. I have a huge family as well (my mom is 1 of 8 and dad is 1 of 7), and they were respectful and told no one. They saw it as our news to tell. 

Post # 21
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1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If you feel like your brother can keep a secret, maybe pull him aside and explain the situation and just tell him.

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