Post # 1
I found out I was pregnant the day after my birthday and while I was out of town with Darling Husband visiting my family. It felt perfect to tell my inmediate family in person since I wanted to share the news with them. But they know not to tell anyone else until I have the first sonogram, hear the baby’s heart beat, etc.
But we have not said anything to his family yet. We would LOVE to tell them (I’m 5 weeks right now) but I’m wondering if its too soon? But I want to be fair at the same time. Is it Ok to tell them and ask them not to share the news as of yet? What did you do?
Post # 3
We didn’t tell anyone until we saw the heartbeat on our dating ultrasound. We started tellling friends after the 1st trimester, but haven’t really made an official announcement or anything like that.
Post # 4
My dad found out a 5 weeks so we went ahead and told my parents then. We told his parents and our siblings at 8 weeks. And then aunts, uncles, grandparents, at 11 weeks.
If you feel comfortable then you can tell them and just ask them not to tell anyone yet, I’m sure they would understand. I personally knew that even if we lost this baby then I would still tell my mom.
Post # 5
We didn’t tell anybody until the 12 week mark. We had a MC at the end of last year and I think my family would have worried about us, which would have stressed me out even more. hen we told immeadiate family and later that week friends.
Post # 6
My parents had me pegged as pregnant the week before Christmas right as I missed my period. I didn’t officially tell them until after Christmas at 6 weeks or so. We waited until about 9 weeks and my MIL’s birthday to tell that we’re pregnant. By then, we saw the heartbeat and had an ultrasound image of our Mr. Jellybaby. We didn’t make it facebook official until 21 weeks.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
We told our immediately family and our bestest best friends immediately, the same night we found out, but we were very clear (and they respected) that they could not tell anyone until we made a public announcement probably around 12 weeks. We waiting a little longer than that in the end. I cannot imagine not telling my mom and my best friend right away, and if something went wrong I would want them to know and I would want their support.
I’m always amazed (and impressed) that couples are able to wait long enough to plan some cute announcement for their parents. How can they stand it?!
Post # 8
@mrsSonthebeach: That’s exactly how I feel.
Post # 9
I told my mother two weeks after finding out I was pregnant. We told his parents after the first ultrasound two weeks later. We still haven’t told families like aunts, uncles & cousins. I gave my mom the ok to make the announcement after my fetal anatomy scan on monday. I’ll be 19w2d.
Post # 10
Generally, the official advice is to wait until 12-13 weeks, due to the high risk of miscarriage in the first 12 weeks. I don’t want children, but if I did, I would want to wait until that point before telling anyone; I just think it must be awful having to ‘untell’ people if you had a miscarriage, as miscarriages are difficult enough to deal with as it is.
But, as you’ve already told your family, personally, I would tell his family too.
Post # 11
We told my parents at 8 weeks right after our first appt. I just wanted to make sure things were going well. We told his immediate family the next week with the stipulation (to both sides) that they couldn’t tell anyone else for at least 4 more weeks and that we would give them the go ahead when it was OK to do so. Heck, I’m 21 weeks and still haven’t said anything on facebook! Everyone in real life knows so I figure I’ll just put up a silly/funny message on there soon.
Post # 12
i guess we did it all wrong ? we told both of our parents right away, two days after we found out and 4 pee test later. everyone is different because they dont want to tell people incase of miscarriage. i understand with friends and such but even if something were to go wrong for example miscarriage i would want my parents to know what im ging through. but once you see the baby or hear the heartbeat it makes you feel so much better.
Post # 13
There aren’t any set rules about when to tell who what…it’s whatever you and your Darling Husband are comfortable with. Some people don’t want to tell even immediate family until the threat of miscarriage has dropped significantly, others can’t imagine not telling immediate family right away.
We told my mom and my BFF (who also happens to be a SIL) the day we found out (right around 4 weeks). A BIL/SIL were pretty convinced I was pregnant when we spent a weekend with them around 6 weeks, but told all of DH’s family at 7 weeks (he has a very small family…his extended family is smaller than my immediate, lol). Because of a previous miscarriage, we had wanted to wait until after we’d seen a heartbeat, but it was Christmas, and seemed right to share then.
We told my immediate family after we saw the heartbeat at our first ultrasound at 8 weeks, and told everyone else at 13 weeks.
Post # 14
We told our parents and my sister around 5 or 6 weeks, and then told a few close friends at 7 weeks and then everyone else at 10 weeks because we had had 2 ultrasounds at that point.
Post # 15
We told our parents around 8 weeks, right after we had the first ultrasound and heard the heartbeat. We told close friends and family at about 10-12 weeks. I didn’t tell facebook or the general public until I wsa starting to show, around 4-5 months.
Post # 16
We have both told our parents right away but have told them they are not aloud to tell anyone until we give them the ok. We are also going to tell our sisters right away too as 2/3 know that we were trying and are really excited. We will probably tell people like aunts, uncles and a couple close friends after I’ve been to the doctor.
I think it is whatever you are comfortable with. If you’ve told one set of parents, why not tell the others.
I honestly think for us people will figure it out quite quickly.