Post # 1
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Busy bee
Hi bees!
I just wanted to see when people told their boss about their pregnancy. I’m not super close with my boss but I kind of almost feel like I want to let him know what is going on and why I’ll be having Drs appointments.
I know that I don’t have to tell him or anything but I will be having more appointments and if something were to happen, I would want him to know just in case I need to take a few days off or something.
Thoughts?
Post # 2
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371 posts
Helper bee
Jamergurl921: I really think its just a personal preference. I told my boss at a little over 16 weeks. For me, I just wan’t comfortable yet! Totally up to you!
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
Jamergurl921: I coach youth alpine ski racing and told my boss (who I am very friendly with, we actually went to high school together and we get together socially quite a bit) at 13 weeks, when we went public with the big news. Some people would consider my job to be one where you should tell your boss right away because of safety concerns, but I felt comfortable continuing to do my normal work (just took it a little easier and was a bit more cautious at times). I live in a small town and just really did not want a bunch of people knowing my private business if I had miscarried- I would have told people if I had, I think, I just wanted it to be on my own terms. I only had two appointments before 13 weeks and I was able to schedule them on my days off. Good luck!
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
I had to take a few hours off work here and there, so I told my boss a little before 12 weeks. I asked him to keep it quiet and I don’t think he’s told anyone else though. He was excited and happy for me, as I’m sure everyone else will be, I just want to give it more time (almost 14w now).
Post # 5
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Honey bee
I told my boss pretty much right after I found out, because I happened to have a meeting with him and I wanted him to know why I’d be taking time off for appointments. Also I had a MC last year and work was so great about it and I just wanted them to be aware incase it happened again. Thankfully it did not!
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
Jamergurl921: the job that I worked part time didn’t know I was pregnant until I was nearly 5 months (but I didn’t show that easily). When I started at my full time job, I was already nearly 8 months so it was a given that I was pregnant.
I would say something whenever you feel comfortable, if you’re worried about a potential miscarriage, maybe once you’re in the second trimester? It also depends on when you start showing obviously.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
Jamergurl921: It really depends on if you have many apts to go to. I have two next week and so my boss knows (actually by default as she is only the boss recently and I had told her as a friend). I think I’d definitely have had to tell a bit early (I’m 10 weeks).
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
I plan on waiting as much as I can to tell my boss, probably not until I actually look pregnant. So maybe 13-14 weeks.
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
Im planning to wait until about 12 weeks. My main reason for waiting is because my boss has a big mouth and I know she will blab to my coworkers about it. They’re all middle aged women who have been pestering me about getting pregnant since I got married over a year ago. So I’d really like to torture them as long as possible 😉
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
Jamergurl921: I was planning to wait until around 8 weeks, but accidentally let it slip right away when I was ducking out of a HH invite.
However, my company’s really good about maternity, and I wanted to tell them early to let them know about the doctors appointments and such.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
I told my boss at 7 weeks. I had horrible MS and was always going to the bathroom and I didnt want my boss to think I was goofing off.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
I am super close with my boss but I waited to tell him til 12 weeks. I could have told him much earlier since we talk about everything and his wife was pregnant too, but I didn’t feel comfortable telling anyone til at least 12 weeks. It really depends on how you feel. If you are okay telling people you had a MC then you can tell your boss at any time. Your boss certainly won’t get mad for you breaking the news early!!
Post # 13
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Honey bee
I’m not working a real job right now, but I am student teaching until I am about 11 weeks. I’ll tell my co-operating teacher if and when I start getting obvious symptoms. I don’t want her to think that I’m coming to school sick and endangering students or anything else like this.
Post # 14
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Blushing bee
I am unfortunately in a really sucky situation with work, where I know my principal (I’m a teacher) will take the whole pregnancy thing out on me, and there is no one to report it to, only the school board, who will side with her. I am waiting until I’m 5.5 months. I can hide my belly with baggy clothes, so that’s no big deal. It just sucks that I can’t comfortably tell anyone what’s going on :/
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
At my job, we use products that are not supposed to be used during pregnancy, so I told my boss and coworkers the day after I got my BFP. We are a small, fairly close group, though, and they all knew how long I’d been TTC and were thrilled for me. They also would have been supportive if I had had a miscarriage.
When you tell your boss and/or coworkers is up to you. If you will be requesting a lot of time off for appointments (as opposed to scheduling them for your days off) or if you are having trouble with morning sickness, it might be smart to say something sooner rather than later. But again, that’s totally up to you.
