(Closed) When to tell people you're pregnant?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
  • poll: When will you/did you reveal pregnancy to immediate family/friends and to everyone else?
    Immediate Fam/Friends: as soon as we found out : (44 votes)
    17 %
    Immediate Fam/Friends: 5-7 weeks : (34 votes)
    13 %
    Immediate Fam/Friends: 8-10 weeks : (35 votes)
    13 %
    Immediate Fam/Friends: 11 weeks or later : (30 votes)
    11 %
    Everyone Else: as soon as we found out : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Everyone Else: 5-7 Weeks : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Everyone Else:8-10 weeks : (8 votes)
    3 %
    Everyone Else: 11 weeks or later : (102 votes)
    39 %
    Other. Comment Below : (5 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I told my mom and sister while the pee test was still a squinter (actually sent them a picture to see if they saw it).  Then we told DH’s parents and sister at 8 weeks.  I had BAAAAD morning sickness that meant I had to take a week off work, which required a doctors note (on OB letterhead) so my boss found out at 11 weeks, and we told a few very close friends around that time as well.

    We waited until 16 weeks to tell the “general population”

    Post # 4
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    5147 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We told family at 5 weeks. We didn’t really want to tell them that soon, but it was Christmas and it was going to be a giveaway when I wasn’t drinking any wine or anything, so we decided to go ahead and tell.

    Everyone else, we waited until almost 12 weeks, after I had at ultrasound at that doctor visit and all was still looking good.

    It’s a scary statistic, but 1 in 5 pregnancies ends in miscarriage.

    Post # 5
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    2622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Since I got my BFP this morning we are just discussing this.

    I told my sister and a friend this morning since they are the only people that knew we were TTC to begin with.

    We will tell our parents probably after the first Drs appt. I am seeing my mom the beginning of April so it will be about 9 weeks. I may wait till then to tell her in person though. (across country)

    The rest of my friends will probably be more play it by ear. Close to 12 weeks, but maybe a smidge early.

    I am sure there will be a few select friends that we live near (we dont live near most) that we will have to tell because I normally drink and if I dont drink they will surely know. I can only have excuses for so long.

    Post # 8
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    4582 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We told our parents within a few days (at DH’s insistence) and we told everyone else after our 13 week ultrasound.

    Post # 9
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    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    We would not tell anyone until after the first trimester and we knew that the pregnancy was a healthy one. We miscarried in 2009 and made the mistake of telling people, it was heartbreaking, after I had the D&C and friends/coworkers who did not hear the news already asked how the pregnancy was going and I had to tell them.

    This time around we will wait until the 12-13th week.

    Post # 10
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    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    In my first pregnancy I told my mom right away and my best friend and that one ended shortly after in a MC. 

    This time, I told my best friend right away and waited until after the first scan at 7 weeks to tell immediate family. I then told a couple other close friends at around 10 weeks. After our 12 week scan we started telling everyone as we saw them. I’m 16 weeks now and there are some friends I haven’t told because I prefer to tell people in person’

    Post # 11
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    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We told our bosses, my dad (my dad is the only surviving parent between my husband and I), his best friend and my 3 closest friends. Everyone else, including some other immediate family members, did not find out until 13 weeks and some, we waited even longer to tell.

    Post # 12
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    2268 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Not pregnant or TTC, but when we are pregnant, we plan on keeping it to ourselves until our first scan.

    I’ll probably tell my mum pretty soon after we find out and we’ll tell FI-to-be’s parents after the first scan, as well as our siblings and my/his best friend.

    Everyone else, we’ll wait till after 12 weeks.

    After our miscarriage though, I’m honestly tempted to not tell anyone till 12 weeks, maybe even up to 16 weeks.

    Post # 13
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    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House

    I’m with a couple PPs – my mom had 3 miscarriages, and I wouldn’t want to tell people before the end of the first trimester. Possibly even close friends and family.

    Post # 15
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    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Immediate families and a couple of close friends after my first doctor’s appointment at 6.5 weeks.  Everyone else after the first trimester.

    Post # 16
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    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I waited until I got my blood test results before telling our immediate families, I waited until after my first prenatal appointment to tell my best friend, and I waited until after our NT scan to tell co-workers and other friends.  We waited until maybe 13/14 weeks to go “facebook public” with it though.

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