Post # 32
We had an ectopic in Feb, and it was devastating. We had each told our best friends. (I had my birthday party and had to fake drink so i needed help covering it up). We are definately going to wait until 12 weeks to tell family next time. I still would tell my best friend, because I was happy to have to her support before and after the ectopic. I wouldnt tell though until i have an NT US at 12-13 weeks. It is really hard to keep it a secret though as we do got to the family cottage every weekend and i drink loads of wine with my MIL! 😉 Should be interesting.
Post # 33
We’re not TTC yet, but depending on timing, I would like to wait until 11-12 weeks to tell family, and everyone else after that. The one exception would be my BFF – I wouldn’t want to lie to her (and she knows our TTC plans), and I know I could count on her for support if anything were to happen.
The difficulty, however, will be with when it happens. If we get PG our first month trying, it would be perfect, because I’d be 12-13 weeks over Christmas when we would see everyone. If it happened later, though, and I weren’t very far along, they’d know something was up when I turn down wine 🙂 At that point, I think we’d just have to roll with telling immediate family early and ask them not to spread the word for a few more weeks.
Post # 34
I would want to tell my family immediately but my Mother-In-Law once mentionned that she wouldn’t want to know until 12 weeks. I find that difficult to imagine hiding it cause they’d notice if I wasn’t having wine with dinner or losing my apetite (I eat EVERYTHING!!). We eat with them a couple of times a week… I can’t imagine them not knowing something’s up.
For everyone else we’re going to wait until 12-16 weeks.
Post # 35
I told one of my best friends the day I found out. And my Aunt because I had been talking to her about my symptoms and getting 3 BFN pee tests. I told my boss around 7 weeks because I was so sick. I told the rest of my team at 10 weeks. I didn’t tell my mother or grandmother until I was 9 weeks. The reason why I waited was I wanted to get in for my first ultrasound. My mom has a truamatic brain injury and has a hard time remembering things and I would hate to have her remember I was pregnant if things didn’t work out. I’ve also told a few people here and there. I haven’t made an official announcement. I’ve just been telling people as I see them. I’m 5 months so if you see me there’s no denying it!
DH told his brother and best friend right away. His brother told his mother (we weren’t happy about that). And he waited until I was about 10 weeks before telling anyone else. His boss knew pretty early cuz he was missing work to help take care of me.
I think it’s really up to you when you tell.
Post # 36
Only my husband will know until our 13 week ultrasound. Then we will tell family, and tell friends some time after that.
Post # 37
We told our parents at 6 weeks and totally regretted it. They wanted to tell EVERYONE and began asking us (2-3 times a week!) if they could tell people yet. Basically it isn’t their news to share and they really stressed us out with the constant badgering and guilt trips about us “forcing them to keep the secret.” By the time 12 weeks was up and we were ready to announce our happy news we knew that most of our extended family already knew because our parents had already told everyone.
Post # 38
My husband and I are ttc right now, and once it happens, the only people I will tell right away is my mom and mother in law, just in case something goes awry I will have 2 mother figures that can comfort my husband and I. Everyone else not until I’m showing. I had a friend who announced her pregnancy on Facebook at 6 weeks and miscarried shortly after. Of course people don’t know and ask her how the pregnancy is going. She has to relive that hurt over and over. That kind of traumatized me.
Post # 39
Honestly, I think I’d want to tell my three best friends right away. If something went wrong, Id really like to have them know so I could talk to them about it. However, my family is very intense, and if I told even my mom, EVERYONE would know. Seriously. My mom lives with my grandparents, and the whole extended family live close and talks like daily. So, none of them get to know until atleast 12 weeks. We won’t be living nearby, so I might even wait until the 20 week gender scan.
My inlaws, on the other hand, I don’t know when we would tell them. They’re not as up in one another’s business and I know my Mother-In-Law has had two miscarriages so they would get the desire for privacy. But seeing as how she went through the MCs, I might actually want to tell her early on.
Post # 40
As soon as I get my BFP Im going to tell my DH mom and my sister THATS IT!
Once Im out of my 1 trimester I will tell Family.
Once Im in trimester 2 thats when Ill announce it to friends.