(Closed) When to tell….

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: When should stlginkgo tell the fam?
    right now! pick up the phone! : (9 votes)
    15 %
    father's day with the album idea. : (20 votes)
    34 %
    after sister's wedding. : (28 votes)
    47 %
    when it is delivery time! : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    You will only be about 3 months then, right? I don’t think that you’ll be showing that much by then. What about right after the wedding…maybe a few days or the next week.

    Post # 4
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    510 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Is this your first pregnancy? If so I doubt you will be showing by the time her wedding rolls around.  If you know that your sister would be upset about you telling your news before her wedding, I would just wait…If anything you would have a light pudge…but again, nothing tht would make people question whether or not you were pregnant…

    Post # 5
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    5823 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Everyone’s body type is different, but I didn’t start showing until I was 6 months.  A lot of women don’t start showing until 5 months.  I don’t think at 14 weeks that you will be obviously showing.  I think that the choice of when to tell them depends on a lot of things, but I don’t think you need to wait.  I would go ahead with your plans and tell your parents, but ask them to keep it quiet until after your sister’s wedding.  That way you keep your sister happy, but you can still share the good news!

    Post # 6
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    3125 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    Unless your sister is very territorial, I don’t think sharing the news on Father’s Day would be a bad idea – I think it’s sweet! As long as you don’t choose the toasts during her wedding, I think you’re safe. 🙂 that’s my opinion though – i’ve never shared news like this before!!

    Post # 7
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    4024 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I really doubt you will be showing by your sisters wedding. Even if you do have a tiny bump, it will be easily hidden with the right outfit. I would wait until after your sisters wedding to tell your family. Don’t do it before because your sister may feel like you are trying to take away from her. Plus, I would wait until you were in your 2nd trimester since miscarriage risks are so high in the first. So, maybe do it on the 4th of July. Get your family “presents” for the 4th and then give them the album (which is a really cute idea!)

    Post # 8
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    Maybe you could share with the parents and ask them to hold off sharing the news with siblings, friends, and other family until after the wedding.

    Post # 9
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    1944 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    You will not be showing, if there is some swelling, that is easy to hide or chalk up to bloating etc. Personally, IMO what I would do is wait until after the wedding but that is just me.

    Post # 11
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    1120 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I would try to wait until after the wedding, or tell your parents but ask them to keep it to themselves until after your sister’s wedding. Do you think they would be able to keep the secret?

    Congratulations, by the way!!!

    Post # 12
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    202 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Love the album idea….. Maybe just keep it in the family till after the wedding if you think your sister might be mad…

    My Brother and sister in law announced they were pregnany a month before my wedding, and I didn;t care one bit! I was just AS happy!

    Post # 13
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I’d wait until right after the wedding! Plan on a “family dinner” or brunch the day after and do the presentations then. you know your sister the best, but since you’re cutting it within a couple weeks, I woudln’;t bring up the pregnancy quite yet.

    I don’t think you’ll be showing yet, though! Pick a floofy dress.

    Post # 14
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    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee

    What if you tell your sister first, tell her you haven’t told anyone else, and run the Father’s Day idea by her?

    Post # 16
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    oh man, that stinks.  I think maybe you should sit down with the bride and confide in her, tell her that it’s a secret and out of respect for her you’re not going to share the news until afterwards.  She should know since you’re in her wedding party, and I’d suggest getting a bolero that covers the front…

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