Post # 32
I think the appropriate time is probably with a big moment. Doing it just because you can doesn’t have the momentum, you know? Then again, simply being able to is kind of a moment, right?
I don’t think you need to wait for an anniversary. Simply pick out a big event you would like to commemorate as a moment in your marriage.
Upgrading seems really different for everyone. I have no plans to because my ring is already a bit too blingy (I can’t wait to just wear the band, that sounds horrible!). But my parents bought upgrades, first a cuff, then reset it with more stones. They kind of see it as a reflection of their growing commitment to eachother, you know, each day your love grows. In addition, as silly as this sounds, they have made huge strides up the economic ladder since engagement. Like my dad worked at a liquour store part time to buy the engagement ring, now they are legitimately well-off. So I’m sure part of upgrading was to reflect their new status.
Post # 33
Since Fiance and I are students and plan on getting married after we graduate, we don’t have a lot of funds especially since we’re paying our living expenses rather than racking up more student loans. He purchased a stand-in ring, it’s a cubic zirconia…this is the first time I’ve admitted to other people that (slightly embarrassed, which i know is completely stupid.) It’s all he could afford, he plans on upgrading it on our first anniversary to something other than a diamond (I’m not much of a diamond girl).
Post # 34
We are planning on upgrading too bc we got engaged while still in school. We are getting a bigger diamond and we can trade it in for full credit on a new one. For us it is a priority. I am not a material girl but the ring provides much more than just another possession. I’m so happy and proud about my guy I want my ring to shine from across the room! It already isn’t the ring he proposed with, because the first ring was NOT the quality he expected and the vendor was a little sheisty, so that might have something to do with the lack of sentimental value in it. My wedding BAND on the other hand I want to be married in it and never upgrade or change that. Kinda just repositioning the value. I know a lot of women get a nicer band in their lives, or even lose and replace it, but I want a plain engraved platinum band that I will have on for 80 years! We aren’t upgrading majorly, .5 carat on my .40 carat diamond, but enough to advertise our fidelity and love. I wish I could have “married and proud” on my hand but I’m too traditional!
Post # 35
I agree! I feel like a nice ring draws attention to the fact that I’m PROUD to be the wife of such a wonderful man! He is everything to me, and since the ring is entirely connected to the symbolism of our relationship and commitment, I want a ring that will show that
Post # 36
his_girl, you are in Pullman, did you or do you go to WSU?
Post # 37
I think you should upgrade when you want to. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my ring, but I know I would like to upgrade my center stone at some point. However, I only want to upgrade when we can really upgrade.
Post # 38
esrockhold – Yes, we are both students at wsu
Post # 39
I want to “upgrade” but only changing the setting. I’ll definitely keep the original stone in the setting. My “dream” e-ring is more antique looking. I’ve really come to love it but I think we’re waiting until about 5 year anniversary to change the setting. I’ll probably put another type of precious or semiprecious stone in the original e-ring.
Post # 40
i’m with the others… i’m pretty sentimental so i didnt want to upgrade. but FH says that he feels bad about getting me such a small e-ring now that it’s one of his goals for the future. We compromised and agreed to get a new setting sometime down the line, that includes the current stone
Post # 41
a friend has the same exact ring. She got engaged while they were students and were nervous to add to debt. Now, he is a radiologist and she is a RN and she was ready to upgrade her ring. She is a sap and so she came up with the PERFECT solution…. she uses her e-ring as the wedding band and bought a beautiful solitaire to wear as the e-ring…now she gets to wear both and it looks great! She took the e-ring with her and the jeweler picked a band that was perfect with it. Her new setting only cost 150.00 (not including her stone) and her e-ring is now her w-band and her other band is on her right hand…she stills wears them all!!!! 🙂
SOmething to consider!
Post # 42
I got a diamond on the smaller side of my hoped-for diamond….but it is beautiful quality and doesn’t look small on my little hands, I don’t want to upgrade the diamond itself. I get compliments on it all the time and I absolutely love it. The only upgrade I am hoping for (maybe for our 5 year anniversary—when Fiance will be done with his surgery residency! and I will be done with my ob/gyn residency!!) is to put the ring in the setting I was dreaming of but we couldn’t afford. That would be a simple Tacori setting with tiny little chips on the shoulders of the solitaire. The one I currently have was my second favorite–a simple solitaire.
Post # 43
I do want to upgrade at some point. He picked our a radiant cut diamond, with princess side stones. It’s a gorgeous ring – I get compliments often, but I realize that I actually want a round cut (and the wedding band I picked out is an eternity band with round diamonds, so it does not match perfectly as it is). It’s a 1.03 karat solitaire, so it’s a nice size for me – but hey, a girl can always go bigger too 😉
Post # 44
I won’t ever upgrade. Too sentimental. Mine happens to be on the larger side, especially for my small hands. If I wanted a bigger ring, I might make my diamond into a neclace or right hand ring.
Post # 45
i would get another ring, like a solitaire or something, and keep that ring, as it has sentmental value, and wear it as an aniversary band, its a very pretty ring, i would not get trade it in. thats your ring that he gave to you! and the new ring will never have that value. maybe go to like walmart (because the price is right– and no one will ever know) and purchase a solitaire ring from there to wear with your set!
Post # 46
If it was in your original plan to “upgrade” or get a different ring, then I would say do it when ever you and your Darling Husband are ready to do.
As far as when it’s too soon… I would say never. We got engaged on June 26, 2009. He propose with a 3/4 ct round solitaire. AND I loved it. Monday, May 3, 2010 My honey picked up my new ring. After we started looking at wedding bands, HE decided that my ring needed more”bling”. he picked out a new setting that is fancy 3 stone setting ( 1/4 ct on either side of cntr stone and 3 1/10 stones under that) and had my original stone put as the center stone. SO… I now have a 1.75 ct engagement ring.