(Closed) When what you want feels so close but yet untouchable…..

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
714 posts
Busy bee

@Andthepupmakes3:  oh girl I feel your pain just read my thread from today! i got the promotion but have 10lbs to lose and a Boyfriend or Best Friend to beat up the aisle ( just kidding) I thought it was coming sooner but just found out its not 🙁 ughh

I’m 30 and my SO is 33.

im hitting the gym hard next week and putting all my energy into that if I can’t have a shiny ring ill take a few pounds down! Best of luck with all your 3!


Post # 4
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I totally understand how you feel and you are totally not alone!  Clearly, I am waiting for my SO to propose as well and we just celebrated 10 years together yesterday.  My work life is not really going how I planned right now and after trying for a promotion it seems that I will be passed up.  I guess its just that you would like one of these two SIGNIFICANT portions of your life to be in order and it messes with your head when both work life and personal life are stressing you out or are just not turning out how you planned. 


Post # 5
8429 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle

@Andthepupmakes3:  I feel like I need to comment because I know exactly how you feel.  The best advice I can give you on the proposal front is try and keep to the shut up pact :/  I know it sounds like cliche advice, but I think it really works.  We had the ring in our house for 2 months before he gave it to me, and I cried and threw fits like a little baby everytime someone else got engaged around me.  It made me think “what is so wrong with me that he can’t propose?”  Please don’t be like me and think that!  It became a point of contention in our relationship and drove us both mad.  He had a specific time in mind (my birthday!) and didn’t want to ruin the surprise for me.  The more I pressured him and talked about it, the more strain it put on our relationship because I’m so stubborn and impatient and he still wanted to do a traditional proposal.  It’s really hard to wait and at times it can really, really, really, really suck (was that enough “really”s?)…

As far as the weightloss… the last 20 are always the hardest to lose but will be the most rewarding!  You’ve got 50 down so far.  That is such an accomplishment.  And this goes for you work as well:  Do not lose sight of how far you have come and everything you have accomplished.  Just because there are milestones on the horizon, don’t forget about the daily accomplishements and everything that has lead up to this point, because you deserve credit!  Do not sell yourself short!!  

Being patient is *super* hard, on all fronts.. work/home/self improvement… but it will all fall into place and when it does, you’ll think “omg i was soooo silly worrying about all these things.”  

Oh and try not to worry! It raises your cortizol levels and causes your body to store fat and not burn it… so as hard as it is try to forget about the proposal and relax and I think the other 20 will fall off!!

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