Post # 1
My rehearsal dinner turned into a 65+ person event, so rehearsing at the actual rehearsal dinner is not an option. I feel it’d take away from the specialness of the actual ceremony. We plan on having an outdoor ceremony, which entails a long “aisle” from venue to ceremony spot. The venue strongly encourages practicing prior to the wedding, on site when doing an outdoor ceremony. They said the timing can be tricky when coordinating it with music. Also worried about grandparents speed. I dont think I would easily be able to estimate their walking speeds without a trial or two.
I was hoping to practice before the rehearsal dinner (20 minutes away from the venue) but Im afraid it will be asking too of my bridal party to rehearse at the venue before the rehearsal dinner. Is it too much to ask them to meet a 4:00 the day before the wedding to pratice? the rehearsal dinner is at 530. Just running it by the bees before I come off as “asking too much” to my friends and family.
Post # 2
SparkleBee11: I think it’s pretty standard to expect 2 locations for rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. My venue scheduled a rehearsal as part of the contract but they don’t provide dinner. We have to travel (15-20 minutes) to the restaurant when we’re done.
Post # 3
SparkleBee11: Nope!! Those are standard practices in any wedding I have been in. Our rehearsal is at 5pm at the Church (I said 445pm on the invitation to ensure timliness). Our dinner is at 6:15pm, about 20 minutes away. It is what it is, and most expect it, I think 🙂
Post # 4
Yeah that’s how it’s always done. Rehersal at the church then dinner at a restaurant. That’s why it’s called a rehearsal. Unless you were getting married at a restaurant it doesn’t make sense to have it in the same place! You don’t need 1.5 hours though. 30 minutes tops.
Post # 5
If the venue suggests there could be a timing problem, then yes do the practice. The wedding party can be a little late to the rehersal dinner. We did a 5 minute walk thru in my drive way, everyone in our wedding party has been in a wedding or had been married. So it was just figuring out who walked with who.
Post # 6
It’s pretty standard to hold the rehearsal and the dinner at two separate places. Every wedding I have been in did this. Since it looks like the day before your wedding is a Friday I would check with them to see if they can leave work to practice. If not, is it possible to push the dinner back?
Post # 7
SparkleBee11: I don’t think it’s asking too much at all. We are doing the same thing. We will be meeting at the venue at 5:30 for the rehearsal, and then its a 15 min drive to the rehearsal dinner at 7.
Post # 8
SparkleBee11: It is normal to have the rehearsal followed by the rehearsal dinner. That’s part of the reason you are having the rehearsal dinner- to thank the wedding party for their time.
Post # 9
ours will be the day before the wedding. we’re doing a rehearsal lunch, because the ceremony venue is booked for a wedding until 6:00pm that day. we’ll do a late lunch, then do the rehearsal after the space is free to use.
we’re still trying to figure out where to do the lunch. i’ve got a list of options to give Future Mother-In-Law.
Post # 10
We didn’t rehearse at all, we just had the dinner. I really wish we had done a rehearsal though, because I was really nervous the morning of the wedding and things were chaotic for a brief moment while we all figured out what we were supposed to do. Mind you, it turned out perfectly fine with no rehearsal, but I would have liked the peace of mind.
Post # 11
We rehearsed in my driveway the night before, after having mexican food. Definitely do a rehearsal, it took us 4 times as long as I thought it would. The process of everyone negotiating who got to stand next to who was insane.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2014 - Private Residence
You’re right on track. We’re having our rehersal at 1 pm in the afternoon, very low key just the absolutely nessecary people in attendance and rehersal dinner at 5:30 at a totally different location with an extended guest list.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
SparkleBee11: We are having a late rehearsal because of out of town guests (7 p.m. at the Church) and then a BBQ after at my parent’s place. There is nothing that says that all your rehearsal dinner guests need to attend your actual rehearsal. Perhaps move your dinner back to 6 p.m. or later to give time. I will have people over at our place before the rehearsal for snacks. My parents are around 30 minutes from the ceremony location, but we are only around 15 minutes.