(Closed) when will (did) your mom/MIL arrive in town before the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: how long before the wedding will (did) your mom/MIL arrive in town?
    morning of the wedding day : (0 votes)
    the day before : (1 votes)
    4 %
    2 days before : (8 votes)
    29 %
    3 days before : (2 votes)
    7 %
    4 days before : (5 votes)
    18 %
    5 or more days before : (8 votes)
    29 %
    they both already live in town, so... several years before : (4 votes)
    14 %
    other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    4046 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    For my brother’s wedding, my mom got her hair done in the morning. She went to the rehearsal dinner and rehearsal and stayed after the wedding to clean up. I would not expect her or my Mother-In-Law to do much more.


    Post # 4
    2553 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013


    Post # 6
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @kjthomps:  Our wedding is a semi-desitnation (in my hometown, but everyone’s doing hotels bc it’s in the actual city and too far to drive back and forth several times). It’s on a Sat, and our rehearsal (at the church) starts at 3:30pm on Fri. Fri am, the mom’s and BM’s and I are going to get our nails done together. Then I’m taking the BM’s to lunch before we head over to the church. The Groomsmen and Fiance are going to pick up their tuxs while we’re doing those things. So, most everyone is arriving Thursday (after work) and will stay until Sunday.

    SN: Fiance and I are arriving Tuesday am. We live in another city now and need to get our marriage license (which has a 3 day waiting period in PA) so it’s valid in time for the wedding. Also, we need to buy and assemble the welcome bags, etc.

    Post # 7
    998 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My parents are flying in Thursday night (Satrday wedding). Mother-In-Law is insistng on coming in like a week before to help. I do not have anything for her to do tho, so ideally it would have been better for her to come Thursday night or Friday morning.

    Post # 8
    2465 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    my in-laws lived in the city we were married in, so they were already there. my parents arrived on tuesday before our Saturday wedding. it was nice to have that much time–they came to my last meeting with our venue coordinator on Wed, and helped me with last minute errands on W, Th, and F (picking up my dress, finalizing flowers, making confirmation calls, assembling welcome bags, bathroom baskets, etc). my mom and I also got massages, I think…I don’t remember, lol! I know I got a mani/pedi with my moh but I think I went with my mom separately…we had a lot of family arriving from out of town, and people started arriving around Thursday, so we had some extra family meals.

    Post # 10
    8576 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Our rehearsal dinner will be 10-2-14, and the ceremony/reception on 10-3-14. Fi’s parents will be arriving a few days before the rehearsal, and they will be joining us on part of our honeymoon [first stop of our honeymoon is a casino].

    Post # 12
    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I said 5 or more days.  It was a Destination Wedding and we flew down with my parents 6 days before the wedding.  We were also staying at their house with them.

    Post # 13
    1311 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    You guys are lucky! My mother lives in europe and I in Canada. She wants to come here for a month! 

    I know it would be ok for most people, specially if you only saw your mother every 4-5 years (like me) but my mother and I only get along at a distance.

    Last time she came to visit was in 2008 for a month. first two weeks were ok, after I was pulling my hair out and her leavign couldn’t come fast enough. Hence I left home country when i was 18… just couldn’t live with her. I am 32 now and I even have a hard time with having a conversation on the phone go longer then 30 minutes.

    She asked to be invited to the wedding and I agree she should come, however she will only come if i pay for her to come (flight etc..)

    I told her that hopefully we can afford to get her here for two weeks. She then demanded to come here for a month. She says it makes no sense for her to come here for less then a month (she doesn’t work).

    A month before the wedding with all the stress is going to kill me!

    Her last visit here put me in debt by 6,000 becasue she chose to come here with two suitcases full of stuff for me (which i didn’t want or asked for) and barely brought any clothing for herself. I had to not only buy clothing but also purchase every little thing that she begged and begged for telling me that she will pay me back which she never did becasue i keep on sending her money becasue she always needs it!


    Ahh sorry for the rant 🙁 My weddign planning is going so happy and smoothly… this is the only thing that brings it down 🙁

    Post # 14
    6123 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We had a destination elopement with H’s parents as our legal witnesses.  We met up with his parents 2 nights prior to the wedding.  So we had one full day with them to hang out.  We hiked, took them out for a 40th wedding anniversary dinner and that’s it.  No wedding tasks were assigned (or even existed!).

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