(Closed) When will it be his turn?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
12635 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow, I’m so sorry.  What are his qualifications (HS grad, college, certifications, etc)?  It can be hard getting into law enforcement because a lot of places look for a CJ degree these days. 

This market is tough for getting jobs across the board.  Can he get a second job to start adding hours back in and saving money to move out? It does sound like he needs to get out of the environment he’s in.  His mother sounds like she’s hurting him, at least emotionally/mentally, and it’s not going to change unless he leaves.  How old is he, if you don’t mind my asking?

Post # 5
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I do not believe in bad luck. 

I think as soon as you do believe it, you let it be the reason for all the things and then wallow in your own self-pity. 

 

We all have choices. While someone might be delt a crappy deck of cards (his mom), he still has the power to change something.

 

“I feel like i’ll never have those things because something bad always happens to me”

This is a dangerous mindset and frankly a very unattractive mindset.  You cannot convince him, nor is it your job to convince him he’s worth something.  He’s got to find it within himself and yes he may need therapy after such a crappy mother.  You can be a supporter of his, but you cannot do all those things for him.

 

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