- 6 years ago
Please forgive me if this post is just everywhere and long!
Do you believe in bad luck? I feel as if my SO has the worst luck ever. We’ve been together for 2 years and it always seems like nothing ever goes his way. First his mom – his mother is insanely rude, cold hearted, judgemental, just ugh!! His dad is not so bad only because he’s a truck driver and gone most of the time. He still lives at home due to money issues. Its so bad that he actually dreads going home after work or hanging out with me. She actually threw a glass vase at him one day because she was so angry he isn’t “doing anything with his life”. She says he’s a fat loser and spends on his money on me and never gives her any when she asks. (FYI he barely has enough for his own bills-gas,car,phone,insurance,rent) and needs to be like his cousins in the military so he can buy her things like his cousins did for their parents. (WTF) It doesn’t help they both are such show offs. The poor boy doesn’t have a house key because his mother believes he doesnt need one!!! HE IS NOT A CHILD! MY GOODNESS!
So, he’s been trying to get another job to feel like he’s worth something. Pretty much this low self confidence comes from his mother.
Two weeks ago he got the opportunity to get a newer car, used but still newer, since his is a tad old and not so reliable. Well, after number crunching he was going to be able to do it. AND THEN WHAT HAPPENS..HIS HOURS GET CUT MASSIVELY!! He is so heartbroken.
He can’t move out to live with other family members because they aren’t very close. Most of his friends have kids and no room for him. He can’t get a place by himself until he finds a better paying job. I still live at home while finishing school.
He applied to the prison here to be a correctional officer. I pray he gets this job. It’ll be such a confidence booster because he’ll feel like he has a legit job with benefits and after two years of being there (fingers crossed) he can apply to be a state trooper!
He gets angry because he has a certain friend who has no high school diploma, no GED, no job, lives at home for free, and spends his girlfriends money she gets from the governement, bums everyday and sometimes asks my SO for money. I told him don’t worry about him, what’s going to happen to him when his mommy and daddy aren’t around, at least you’re trying. Worry about you.
I try my hardest to help him and tell him things will be ok but he doesnt believe it. He wants to get away from his toxic family for good. He told me last night, “I want a good job. I want you to be proud of me. I want to get married, have a roof over our heads, I want children, but I feel like i’ll never have those things because something bad always happens to me.” 🙁
I cry because i’m so stressed for him. I see the sadness in his face. I just want someone to tell me things will be ok, that one day it’ll be his turn to shine.
Thank you for letting me vent!