Post # 1
My little sister is getting Married on September 12. I just found out I’m pregnant but I don’t want to tell anyone in the family or really anyone until I make it through the first trimester or right around then. Well, unless I start showing then…
I’ve had three miscarriages and just one pregnancy work (I got my daughter !) so I would really rather not announce it yet. My mom’s birthday is the 13th of September and I’ll be right at the last of the first trimester. If I can keep my mouth shut until then would it be ok to announce it then? I know it’s awfully close the wedding. I do know my sister will be thrilled for us, she’s been there when we’ve been through everything. I don’t however, want to steal her thunder at all. What would you do?
Post # 3
Can you tell her privately then announce it after the wedding?
Post # 4
If you think your sister would be ok with it, then I think the 13th or so is fine. Especially with your past, Id definitely wait until that day to be sure. If you start showing, id discreetly mention it to just your sister so perhaps she can accommodate, but its not too close. Id have been THRILLED if my brother and his wife announced the day after our wedding! Oh – make sure you bring some sparkling grape juice so nobody wonders why you arent toasting at the speech Im doing this for a friend at my wedding, nobody has to know! CONGRATULATIONS!
Post # 5
Congratulations! I might mention it to her ahead of time and say that you don’t want to tell everyone else until after the wedding – if it’s okay, the day after. This way it’s like a b-day present to your mom – you could even do a speech or write in her card that not only does she get this gift, but you’re making her a grandmother again. I’m sure your sister will understand and be happy for you, especially if she’s been through the sadness too.
Post # 6
I would be fine if my sister said something on or around my wedding. I’m not much on to getting annoyed about things like that – its great news! I’d wait a bit, but if your Dr. tells you thinks are looking strong, I would tell your sister privately so she knows (and that she knows you are keeping it quiet until you are "in the clear").
Congrats! My heart is with you on this 🙂
Post # 7
Congratulations and best wishes! I like the idea of talking to your sister maybe a week ahead of the wedding and letting her know discretely if you’re starting to show. If not, I’d talk to her the next morning and see if she’d be okay with you announcing it then. I’d be thrilled if my sis had such happy news, but I’ve seen a lot of posts from women who are not as happy about it, so I’d recommend checking just in case.
Post # 8
I agree with heathaah, tell your sister privately and make sure she understands why this is for her ears only. I am sure she will understand. Before doing so though, you can speak with your doc to make sure thing are strong.
Post # 9
First off, congratulations! =)
I would think that it would be okay to announce it then — it’s after the wedding, after all. But maybe mention it to your sister beforehand and ask her if it’s alright (if you don’t want to tell her until you’re sure, maybe ask her a couple days beforehand?). And you might want to check with your mother, too, just in case (since it’s her birthday).
Post # 10
Congratulations!!! This is so exciting! I’m praying for you that everything turns out happy!
I agree w/ Heathaah and RoddyBride…let your sister know privately closer to the wedding, and let her decide on when she’d be comfortable with you making the announcement. If she thinks the 13th is fine, then great! Go for it! If she’d rather you wait a week or two to let things settle, then hopefully you can contain yourself and all will be ok!
Post # 11
I think I might tell my sister before the wedding, probably privately before her bachelorette party, which I’m having at my house. I normally drink so I would need to explain to her why I’m not then. But I’ll probably give my mom a birthday card with the announcment. My Grandparent’s will be in town too and my grandma knows about 3 of the miscarriages, my grandpa knows about 2 of them. I would love to be able to give the news to them myself too. Especially good news!
Thankfully she did know we would be trying soon and was fine with it. I also planned my dress to be able to fit even if we got pg soon.
I don’t want to tell anyone because if it doesn’t go well I don’t want to mar this happy time for her.
Thanks for your comments!