(Closed) When would you chase RSVPs? How soon after the date??

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Honestly the day of i am starting to chase them. We gave them 4 months to send back there RSVP’s and i just think it’s ridiculous that 25 have still not came back and they are due in exactly a week. How hard is it to check a box that says yes or no, put it in the pre-adressed and stamped envelope and stick it in a mailbox.

Post # 5
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

NearlyMrsMac – I totally want to start calling people this week but, fingers crossed those 25 RSVP’s are in the mail as we speak and will hopefully make it by next thursday. It’s hard not to rant when we made it so easy for them to reply.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I would give it 2-4 days and then begin asking people. It’s not bad to do it the day after either. But you may be creating more work for yourself because responses could still be in the mail.

Post # 9
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104 posts
Blushing bee

I’m planning to start the day of. Mine aren’t even due for another 2 weeks and I wish I could start calling now! lol!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’d probably start calling a couple of days after, although it might be tough to wait that long.  LOL!  

Glad you only have 3 more to wait for.  That’s great! 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I was out of town on our RSVP date, so by the time we got back, it was about 5 days after.  We started calling right away, were nice about it, but I agree with your frustration.  I mean, most people either know right away whether or not they’re going, so fill it out and drop it in the mailbox already!

Post # 12
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877 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Our RSVP date was on a Friday, so I waited until Monday to start asking people. Our method of RSVP was via our website, e-mail, or phone, so we didn’t have to worry about having to wait for them to come in the mail before tracking them down.

Post # 13
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@NearlyMrsMac: It depends when your ultimate deadline is. Our RSVP date is April 28th but the real deadline for the caterers is May 18th which leaves a gap of about two and a bit weeks so I’ll probably chase them up in the first week to be honest, as if they don’t know if they’re coming at that stage will they ever? ha ha

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I still have a few weeks until my deadline so I am wishing I had made the deadline earlier. I would start chasing them down maybe a day or two after. I really don’t understand why people have to wait until the deadline anyway. Especially the people living across the country. If they are coming they have to buy a plane ticket and if they haven’t bought one now I assume they don’t plan to. That being said these Out of Town people know if they are coming or not so can’t they just RSVP? >_<

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would start calling them the very next day.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

my deadline isn’t until 5/1, however I’m not at all interested in chasing people down.  I’m seriously debating just cancelling the whole seated dinner thing and doing a buffet with my estimated number of guests.  ugh. I should have did a Destination Wedding.

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