Post # 1
Our RSVP date is Saturday – we have 2 RSVP dates because of too many people so we had to have a second load of invites going out as we got no responses.
I am still waiting for 12 responses for the RSVP on Sat, it is driving me mad! I know how busy people are, and our wedding is still about 2 months away but it is a destination/OOT wedding for most of our guests, and our hotel needs numbers on May 9th so I need to get responses. This is the worst bit of wedding planning!
How soon would you chase people after the RSVP date? I really want to start phoning and emailing on Sunday but am not sure if that is too pushy.
Post # 3
Honestly the day of i am starting to chase them. We gave them 4 months to send back there RSVP’s and i just think it’s ridiculous that 25 have still not came back and they are due in exactly a week. How hard is it to check a box that says yes or no, put it in the pre-adressed and stamped envelope and stick it in a mailbox.
Post # 4
Thank god it is not just me who wants to start to chase them the day of, I have been so tempted to try and phone them this week but am trying to behave 🙂 We put in stamped envelopes/reply cards, an email and a phone number to reply to if people didn’t want to post it.
What really gets me is some of the people on our later list who we desperately want there but originally couldn’t put on our first list because of family we had to invite – I posted out about 5 invites 4 days ago to those people as we had enough nos. What do I get – within 4 days of posting them, either the reply card, an email or phone call saying ‘We got the invite, yay, we’re coming!’
Why do people think it is ok not to reply, how hard is it?
Sorry, rant over for at least 10 minutes, just relieved it isn’t just me! My Mom wanted to call people within a week of mailing invites to find out!
Post # 5
NearlyMrsMac – I totally want to start calling people this week but, fingers crossed those 25 RSVP’s are in the mail as we speak and will hopefully make it by next thursday. It’s hard not to rant when we made it so easy for them to reply.
Post # 6
Hopefully you will get them in the next week. To be fair, in the last week I have had 20 replies back in about 8 days, so I do think people sometimes wait until close to the date – fingers crossed you get them back this week so you at least have a couple less people to chase up! Especially given your wedding is around a month away, I really can’t complain when we are in July! Good luck 🙂
Post # 7
I would give it 2-4 days and then begin asking people. It’s not bad to do it the day after either. But you may be creating more work for yourself because responses could still be in the mail.
Post # 8
What can I say, 9 responses arrived in the post or by email today 🙂
Only 3 more to wait for! Sometimes I need to remember to have a little patience…
Post # 9
I’m planning to start the day of. Mine aren’t even due for another 2 weeks and I wish I could start calling now! lol!
Post # 10
I’d probably start calling a couple of days after, although it might be tough to wait that long. LOL!
Glad you only have 3 more to wait for. That’s great!
Post # 11
I was out of town on our RSVP date, so by the time we got back, it was about 5 days after. We started calling right away, were nice about it, but I agree with your frustration. I mean, most people either know right away whether or not they’re going, so fill it out and drop it in the mailbox already!
Post # 12
Our RSVP date was on a Friday, so I waited until Monday to start asking people. Our method of RSVP was via our website, e-mail, or phone, so we didn’t have to worry about having to wait for them to come in the mail before tracking them down.
Post # 13
@NearlyMrsMac: It depends when your ultimate deadline is. Our RSVP date is April 28th but the real deadline for the caterers is May 18th which leaves a gap of about two and a bit weeks so I’ll probably chase them up in the first week to be honest, as if they don’t know if they’re coming at that stage will they ever? ha ha
Post # 14
I still have a few weeks until my deadline so I am wishing I had made the deadline earlier. I would start chasing them down maybe a day or two after. I really don’t understand why people have to wait until the deadline anyway. Especially the people living across the country. If they are coming they have to buy a plane ticket and if they haven’t bought one now I assume they don’t plan to. That being said these Out of Town people know if they are coming or not so can’t they just RSVP? >_<
Post # 15
I would start calling them the very next day.
Post # 16
my deadline isn’t until 5/1, however I’m not at all interested in chasing people down. I’m seriously debating just cancelling the whole seated dinner thing and doing a buffet with my estimated number of guests. ugh. I should have did a Destination Wedding.