- 2 weeks ago
I have severe anxiety so may be looking too much into things (currently in therapy).
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 1.5 years. We live togetheer and have been living together for about 7 months now. We live in a studio condo with a cat so can’t get a puppy right now. However, we may move out as soon as May into a bigger place. He says he wants a dog (has never had one in his life) but is not ready at the moment. He gave the following reasons:
– Won’t get one immediately after moving because that in and of itself is a big change that needs adjusting to
– We will be taking in my family’s cat (long story) so that’s another change
– He’s going through crap at work (business isn’t doing well, they’re moving offices, changing business strategy) which is a bit of stress
– He wants to see our relationship maintained for a bit longer
He doesn’t do well with change and likes to do things gradually, so adding a puppy into the mix after moving into a new place, getting another cat, and going through crap with his job is a lot to deal with. I’m not worried about the first few reasons (which is says are his biggest reasons). I am worried about the last point.
About 6-7 months ago we hit a bit of a rough patch. Mainly, I wasn’t getting help with my meental health and it was taking its toll on our relationship. Since then, I have sought out therapy and the progress has been huge. These past 6 months have been incredible and the happiest of our entire relationship. He’s says he no longer has any doubts and is 1000% sure about us. But it has also only been 6 months and although he isn’t worried about us going back to how it was, he does just want to see us maintain this great relationship for longer than 6 months (he just wants consistency). He says he will likely be ready by the spring.
In the past 6 months we’ve done the following, which he’s seemed super excited about all of them: got new furniture, bought a big TV together, booked a big vacation together, opened a joint chequing account, are in the process of moving to another place, and he’s in the prrocess of getting me on the intercom in the building (he owns the condo). Again, he’s seemed enthusiastic about all of them.
Btw, we’ve discussed timelines and are on the same page with that.
My worry is even though he says he’s 100% certain about us, he still wants to see maintenance before getting a dog. Should I be worried about this or is 1.5 years generally fairly early to geet a dog in a relationship anyways?