(Closed) When would you start TTC in this situation?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: When would you start TTC in this situation?
    Start TTC 3 months before the new job, so baby would be born at least 6 months after start date. : (18 votes)
    31 %
    Start TTC when the job starts, so it would be at least 9 months. : (14 votes)
    24 %
    Start TTC after 3 months, so it would be at least a year after the job starts. : (25 votes)
    42 %
    Other. (Please explain!) : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    First, I would check what the maternity leave policies are going to be with your new job.  I know here in Australia you have to work for your employer for 12 months before you’re entitled to maternity leave.  Medical costs are all covered as we have socialised medicine, but a company doesn’t have to hold your job for you until you’ve worked there for at least 12 months.

    After that, I would suggest maybe your first option of start TTC three months before starting the job would be fairly reasonable.  You never know how long it may take you to get pregnant, even if you have no known health problems.  Hopefully it’s a quick process for you but at 30, a healthy woman can take up to 12 months to get pregnant and still be considered ‘normal’ (I’m 32 and pregnant with my first so I am in no way trying to put a negative spin on that!)  

    I always tell people that when you start TTC, you should be financially/physically/emotionally ready for it to happen straightaway, because it does happen that quickly sometimes, but you should also not bank on getting lucky your first, second, or third time out because that’s not always going to happen either. 

    Good luck!

     

    Post # 4
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    753 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I would probably start trying a few months before the start date. You never know how long it will take to get KU. It could happen right away or it could take a while. I would start sooner rather than later in your situation. Good luck with your decision. 🙂

    Post # 5
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    2638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    If you were younger or only wanted one baby I’d say go slower, but as it stands I say get to making some babies, girl!

    Post # 6
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    14415 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @smores:  I certainly don’t want to do anything to make anyone unhappy with me because of maternity leave timing.

    While that is very considerate of you, no job or bosses happiness would be worth me being a mother when I feel I am ready for it, espeically at that age (not that you are old, but I am 32 and totally understand the wanting to not wait too long) and wanting more than 1 child. 

    Post # 7
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    298 posts
    Helper bee

    Because you want more than one, I would start TTC sooner rather than later.  Jobs will always be out there, and it looks like there is much flexibility.  There’s never a really “good” time to have a baby.  It will interrupt whatever you are already doing regardless.  That’s why I’m always giving my SO heat for not wanting a baby while he’s in school.  I’m like dude, you can put it off so the baby doesn’t “interrupt” school, but then you are having the child right when you start your career anyway.  May as well go for it!  

    Have you discussed sibling spacing? 

    Post # 10
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    959 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I have a 1 year fellowship that started Sept 1 this year and so we didn’t intend to start TTC until September so I’d have been there at least 9 months when I needed to leave for maternity leave. I talked to my doctor and she was basically like, if you’re ready, don’t worry about the job, it will work out. So we decided to “just see what would happen” starting in June and welp, we got pregnant! Turns out I don’t know why I even cared, it is so not a big deal that I’ll have only been there 6 months. In fact, it made it better, because my first 3 months when I was dealing with morning sickness, I was just phasing out of my old job and not having the stress of adjusting to the new one until I felt much better in 2nd tri. Obviously there is no “ideal time” but I say if you are ready, which it sounds like you are, just go for it. Everythign will fall into place. 

    Post # 11
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    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I was in a somewhat similar situation.  I’m working as a postdoc in a 3-year position, so I knew I would be changing jobs in September of 2012.  We ended up deciding that we would try to get pregnant to give birth in the spring of 2012 — so I could still travel for interviews in the winter and would be done with maternity leave before it was time to start my new job the following summer/fall.  It ended up working out, although this biggest unknown is how long it will take to get pregnant.  You have pretty much zero control over that. 

    I like the idea of waiting until 0-3 months after starting your job to start TTC b/c you’ll want to get your new job under control first, and the 1st trimester of pregnancy can be really rough w/ morning sickness and exhaustion.  That being said, people tend to just make it work, so no matter what you decide I’m sure it will work out fine.

    Post # 12
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    3799 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted to get at least a year in at the job before the maternity leave. Although you said the boss will be supportive, I think it would be wise to get a little bit established at your job before making yet another big life change. However, that is just how I think.

    Make sure you dont’ have to work there X amount of time before you are covered by a leave. A girl at my work was pregnant (didnt know it at the time) when she got hired at my job and she had to go out on leave after being here less than 6 months. She was not covered by leave of any kind because she did not complete the 6 month ‘probation’ period. This meant she had to take time without pay, and didn’t get as much leave as other ladies in our unit that were also pregnant at the time.

    Perhaps make sure you know rules like this, and then make your decision. You might not have to wait so long if you find out that you are eligible for leave at anytime.

    Post # 13
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    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I agree about checking your policies first. There are limitations to maternity leave and such inthe states also.

    Post # 14
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    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Since it can take a year for a healthy couple to get pregnant, I would start once you start your new job.

    Post # 15
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    927 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would start trying as soon as you start your new job. That way you’re not starting your new job pregnant (might not be feeling well etc) and you never know how long it will take you to get pregnant.

    Post # 16
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    1263 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    (FWIW, I’m an attorney).  I would start TTC when you start your new job…it may take you a few months but I think that since it probably took a lot for you to get this clerkship (congrats!) it is probably appropriate to be at the job for a year before you take maternity leave.  If it were only a 1 year clerkship I would say to wait…but since it’s two years I would say it’s fine to take leave during that time. I would also check the maternity leave policy.

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