Post # 46
She called you out for the same reason a police officer chooses to pull you over out of a group of 4 going 80+ MPH on the freeway. One of you is going down, today is just your day and just because you’re locked in groupthink doesn’t suddenly make you immune to criticism. Relax or get off of the internet.
Post # 47
LMFAO. Ok. I just asked her to explain how home ownership=being an adult. It’s a super elitist attitude to have as that is not an attainable goal for everyone, or, not everyone even wants that goal. I’m seriously struggling to make sense of your reply as I don’t think she “called me out” However, I agree I’m taking this way too seriously when I don’t need to be. I think it’s good to challenge someone’s preconceived (and frankly wrong), notions but I can’t force it and that’s exactly what I was doing. Thanks for bringing it to my attention. Also, I will NEVER get off the internet and I will never relax.
Edited for lots of words that just weren’t gelling.
Post # 48
I’ve already agreed I worded it wrong and that paying bills and being completely independent is what I meant! I legitimately think we agree to the most part but I just worded it badly because I wrote it at 2am!
Post # 49
I mean, kind of unrelated but I’m just curious how expensive your first house was? I don’t ask to snark, just genuinely curious since you had your money and stuff all saved by 19.
Post # 50
I was wondering the same thing. I mean it’s totally doable if the house was like 50k and you didn’t need a huge downpayment or a lot of credit being a first time home buyer, the home being dirt cheap. Here homes are 440-500k minimum so at 19 it would be impossible to own a home, on your own, without atleast a sizeable downpayment .
Post # 51
Yep agreed. I also know on weddingbee especially, but in real life, people exaggerate circumstances sometimes in all scopes. I know someone who lived in a trailer but called it a house. Nothing wrong with their living situation but a 50k-100k trailer in a trailer park where I used to live nowhere near a 300k house. When my husband I didn’t have a lot of money it was suggested we buy a trailer because it was so cheap and we could actually afford but I was like absolutely not. We got a roommate in an apt instead and eventually moved to our amazing house. I’m curious too but I got my first house at 25 so it can be done in early 20s.
Post # 52
The brain has not fully developed until age 25. There are many other factors that can slow or alter development as well, trauama for example. I think of YA as 18-25. I also think someone 26-30 is still very young and developing into their adult self.
Post # 53
no I don’t mind, it was £125,000 ($165,000) was my first place, now I live in a £210,000 place ($275,000) and I’m 23.
Yeh it’s not the most expensive place ever but I know british wages are a lot lower than US wages so it probably evens itself out
I’ve worked and saved since I was 12 years old, I was a floor manager in a department store at 18 working 70 hour weeks.
It was hard but im very happy as now I work part time earning the same as my mum does working full time. I work part time because we have a 1 year old daughter.
ETA: this won’t be our final house, we will probably move again in 3-4 years to a bigger place. I’d like another bedroom so my family can stay when they visit without half having to stay in the ‘music room’ (it’s just a bedroom with a load of instruments and a sofa bed in it)
Post # 54
I was an adult at18 as I had moved out and had sole financial responsibility for myself. Including rent, student loans, and car loans
Post # 55
I totally thought anyone under 28-30 age range was still a young adult.
Man…. now im just an adult.