(Closed) When you are the parent to your parents

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I know it isn’t ideal but could you work on something where he lives close by with a home health nurse?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Have you looked into any free or reduced-cost local programs he can enroll in?  Specifically, I’m thinking if you have a Meals on Wheels in your area, they’ll often provide him with one meal a day and some company for a short visit.  Additionally, there may be come other programs he would qualify for that could help him with daily activities.

Most states nowadays have a 211 phone service.  It’s basically a governmental resource where you can call a centralized number and find out about any/all federal, state, and local programs and services for a certain type of issue (like ailing/aging parents).  You can Google your state + 211 to find out the phone number.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My friend is currently going thru this as well. They found a newly arrived immigrant to live with her grandmother and uncle. This woman is amazingly motherly and looks out for the two of them for room and board while she works out some legal issues. (Bringing her son over.) It probably isn’t a long term solution but it is working for now and my friend can focus on her high risk pregnancy. Could something like that work in your case?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Regarding the intimacy issues with you Fi, you might want to try hotel dates.  My friend at work swears by them from when her mom stayed with them for a few months and now, they still love them.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You could also call the nursing school at the closest college to you and find him an aide and companion that would work for like $10 an hour. When I was in school we would get emails from our secretary asking if any of us would like to be private aides, companions or house keepers for local disabled or elderly people whose families had contacted the school. Students are a good way to go because you are going through their school and can use their instructors as references, they tend to have odd hours at school and (from my experience) really prefer short home health shifts. They can do their homework and sit with him and watch TV and help him to bed at night. The best thing is that their friends at school can be back ups, if they get sick you can have a list of their friends who would go in her place and she could just send one of them. I was a backup for one woman and when her regular aide graduated I just took over.

If he likes to get out of the house maybe he could join a local senior center or senior group. My grandfather is part of a group where more ambulatory and healthy seniors volunteer to help disabled people at home and drive them to doctors appointments and family visits. Depending on your dad’s ability level he could volunteer or benefit from local volunteer groups.

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