Post # 92
Ditto the bridesmaid dress idea! MANY bridesmaid dresses come in white. That way you will have a new dress, but one that is a lot more affordable. A girlfriend of mine wore one for her wedding and nobody knew. Everyone just commented on how beautiful her dress was and how great she looked in it. Good Luck!
Post # 93
Someone upthread said that it’s all relative–so true! One woman’s bargain is another woman’s budget-buster.
Seriously though, the first wedding dress i nearly bought was from oncewed.com, and it was listed at $50! Sadly, it turned out that the measurements were listed incorrectly, so I never purchased it, but someone else did just a few days later, and got a gorgeous dress for almost nothing!
I’ve seen both sides of the debate–my best friend wanted the couture poufy princess dress, and she made plenty of money and could afford it, so why not? She actually had three dresses–one traditional western white dress, one traditional red chinese dress, and a third red/black evening gown. She paid for it all herself and looked gorgeous! Another friend was married in a $25 red prom dress and dollar store tiara. It fit her personality to a “T” and she looked great too!
And before I forget, big pat on the back to you for being financially responsible. I know it is soooo hard to see people buying things while you chip away miserably at credit card debt, but please know that you are doing the right thing.
Post # 94
I found the comments here good and some comical. Here is my 2 cents. 🙂 Its YOUR day, just like your brithday or any other special day you have. I am not one to tell anyone how they want to spend their day nor do I care to compare that special day with anyone elses. So honestly who cares if you are a 1 dress bride, 2 dress bride, a new dress bride or a used dress bride. The fact is you are a BRIDE!!!!! Yay!!!! Celebrate that and let us all be happy. If one person wants to save nickels for a house and another for their dress…. So be it. 🙂 It is all good with me as long as each bride is happy. That is ALL that matters. I am guilty of being indecisive too, and then stopped after I realized it was all for nothing because I am going to be happy either way in my pretty dress/dresses. lol Because I get to have a wedding day with the man of my dreams and have my party and eat my cake too. Thank you for this post, You will be a beautiful bride. Keep saving and yes it is okay to save money on a sample dress/used dress and anything else. You can sell it after and get your money back and you can use the money to have whatever else you want and if you don’t want their opinions of them feeling sorry for you with your used dress, just don’t tell them. They probably won’t know the difference anyway.
Post # 95
On the other hand, two dress brides usually have one dress to sell, so I say god bless them!
My co-worker managed to score a gorgeous gown she never would have been able to afford otherwise from a two dress bride who was really needed to sell her first gown.
so it was a win-win. I like those.
Post # 96
AMEN for posting on this topic!! I’m in the middle of wedding dress hell right now. I found a dress I liked that was 4 times my budget last Saturday. After being smacked in the face with sticker shock all day dress shopping, I left frustrated, upset, exhausted, and almost in tears. The dress finding process is not fun at all. I have found it to be the exact opposite which is really disheartening because I went into it thinking it was going to be an awesome magical experience. I am thinking about buying my dress on eBay but pretty much everyone is advising me not to do so. Ugh 🙁 Maybe I’ll win the lottery in the next week 🙂
Also, I wanted to dovetail on the Craigslist topic, not sure if this has been mentioned, but post a Wanted ad on Craigslist. You would be surprised the people who come out of the woodwork wanting to sell their dress for a great price. Good luck!
Post # 97
man there were alot of posts… i didnt read any just wanted to give you some advice that i thought might help… my fiance calls me his lil googler, so i have come across a few ideas…. just a though: what if u go to where ever, find the dress….get the style number and designer, whoever it is, get online and see if someone is selling one. maybe a one time use, or a heaven forbid, called off wedding…. just type in for instance “davids bridal v1650” or “pnina tornai 4360” ….and just look till your lil fingers fall off…. or find the one and wait it out for a sale….apparently gowns/bridal shops have off seasons and go big time on sale. good luck!!!!
Post # 98
I agree with those that said every budget is a different situation. Some people may not have debt and can afford to put more money aside for a dress. Maybe they’ve been putting money aside for longer. I started saving for the wedding the first time DH mentioned the “M” word. Thank goodness I did this because the extra crash came in real handy. Some people may be getting help from their parents and will be able to spend money on a dress. You just never know.
I went into a bridal shop and got my dress for only $350, so you aren’t bound to just David’s Bridal. I don’t know if it was just a combination of luck, or scouring the sales rack, but it can be done.
And there’s nothing wrong w/ Craigslist, ebay, consignment shops. I looked at those places too but never found anything I liked.
Post # 99
I bought my dress on ebay. It was preowned and needed a new zipper but it was only $75.00! It was exactly what I had in mind and the second I received it I knew it was THE ONE!!!
Post # 100
Who cares? Buy what you want and what you can afford. But don’t judge brides who buy two dresses or gowns over 4k…a lot of my friends had help from their families. I mean like their parents wrote out checks for 20k. We aren’t all so lucky, we all have our budgets and every bride is beautiful, even that frankenstein one.I was in a wedding with my friend who’s Reem Acra gown was over 9k and took 8 months to make and another who rented her gown, and both looked stunning!!!
PS: In NYC they have these places in Chinatown where you can get limos, photographers, and rental dresses for less than 5k, it is like big packages. But you can rent your dress and then bring it back. I know because I am a bridesmaid in a Chinese wedding in October and she is renting us our dress as a gift. Brilliant!
Post # 101
I admit that I didn’t get to wear my “dream dress” on my wedding day… it would have cost me $4000+! And I definitely had thoughts like “I’m so sad I don’t get to wear my dream dress” in the days leading to the wedding. I even whined to my Fiance about it, and he was sweet enough to offer to buy it for me (but I cannot fathom spending that much money on one dress that I will wear for 1 day). But in the end, everything turned out amazing. People were complimenting me on my dress all night long… calling me a “princess” and “hot model” (LOL!!). I was glowing from within, and I felt so confident. In the end, it’s your attitude and inner beauty that makes people love you– not the $$$$$ dress!
Btw, I bought my dress off of preownedweddingdresses.com. It was pre-owned but brand new (the original owner never got to wear it). I feel really lucky to have found it! It retails for $2000+, and I got it for $800. Bargains are definitely out there if you look hard enough. 🙂
Post # 102
I highly recommend David’s Bridal. I know a lot of people say they aren’t good, but I went there when they were having a sale and got a dress I love for $200. I firmly intend to resell it for $100 after the wedding so that it will have only cost $100 for me and another bride to have a lovely dress. =)
Post # 103
Ummm… 🙂 What size are you? You can have my dress for free! I’m serious.
But really, keep your eyes open! There’s lots of great websites out there! 🙂
Post # 104
My dress is used although it still falls into the “ridiculous” price range (I say that tongue in cheek, I know that it’s a lot, but we all choose to spend our money on different things!) – anyway, I’m not a huge fan of David’s dresses for me, and clothes have always been my weakness. My dress, new, would have been about 5k, and there was no way I had that money! So I bought it Once Wed and don’t regret it for a second.
I’m happy to talk about it, but I know many traditional family members look down on it. Which is, in my mind, ridiculous! Why should I have paid even $100 for a dress I didn’t love? Financial decisions are so personal and varied – I could never imagine dropping money for cable or TV or an expensive cell phone, but $2000 for my wedding dress didn’t make me blink because I knew that it was right for me. There are plenty of non-traditional ways to get what’s perfect for you – if you love a certain dress (from David’s, from a no-name designer, from whomever) hunt Once Wed, Pre-Owned Wedding Dresses, etc. If you’re smart about it you can certainly find those dresses for at least 50% off retail.
Post # 105
I know what you mean. I completely understand. I can’t even afford a $200 dress, but I hope that I’ll be able to purchase off of lightinthebox or another Chinese company b/c I cannot afford American dresses. I’m all for american-made products but unfortunately, I make below the poverty line and recieve no federal assistance. I plan on going into david’s bridal only to find what “style” of dress I want and looks good on my body. I do have to say all those preowned dresses are most of the time overpriced or there are very few in my size. Anyways, I plan on selling my dress after my wedding to recoup the cost and hopefully keep the price at half of what I paid for my dress…so something like $75-100.
Post # 106
I bought my dress from bridepower.com, it is an Amsale ballgown. It’s originally over 4000, but I got it for 539 and now I don’t want it. I love the look and the dress, but not on me or for the small wedding we are now having. See it has tiny straps and and deep v-neck and I happen to be a bit on the bigger side. I’ve even had the straps tightened and I’m still afraid I’ll fall out (we have a 4 year old and I know at some point I’ll be bending over to talk to her or pick her up).
~So now I am looking for another and I’m combing the web looking for the dress I want. I have become a two dress bride, something I never wanted to be, by accident. The bridal salon in town sells the dress I want for about 1300, but I don’t want to pay that! We have a DB, but I have never found anything that made me say “this is it!”
I understand where you are coming from. I hate to spend lots of money on things like this, it seriously makes me sick to my stomach. We are paying for everything ourselves and it’s kind of hard (we just bought a ridiculous house in Jan. & decided to make the wedding smaller because we were going over our budget). Make sure you try lots of things on, I think that was my problem, and then start your search. Good luck!