- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I think if you have a legitimate reason, such as she treats him badly, or something of actual concern, you should deffinately say something. But if you just dont like her or feel they arent a good match, dont. Its not your place. I could never wish someones marriage to not work. And, like you said, you dont know what the relationship is like. FI’s family was HORRIBLE to me, telling him i wasnt right for him, it would never work, etc. And i spent pretty much everday for 6 months in tears. We never got to have a happy engagement because the negativity didnt die down til we had been engaged so long that it wasnt new anymore. Im not necessarily a shy person, but im more reserved than most people. And FI’s family took that and used it against me, saying i was too shy for him, or snobby cuz i didnt talk. But when its just me and Fiance, im my true self. Im crazy and goofy, and we have the most fun together. His family thinks im mean and bossy. I will admit, maybe im a little bossy, but honestly, Fiance doesnt do anything unless you get bossy. lol. Alll you are seeing is certain things, not the whole relationship. No one sees how i get up at 3 am to make Fiance breakfast, coffee, lunch, and get his clothes ready for him before he goes to work. No one sees how much we laugh together and how happy we are in our home. For everything you see, there are a million things you dont. So really think about the reasons why you think it wont work before you make your decisions. And in my opinion, how long you have been together doesnt mean anything. I knew Fiance was the one after 2 months. We have now been together for 3 years, and will be married in may. Sometimes you just know. Any marriage at all has a chance of not working. I think the ones that do end up divorced are the ones that dont realistically see that. I know that, so it will make me work extra hard to make my marriage work.