(Closed) When you go out, what is ok?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No flirting, no coming home with numbers, nothing. I’m not prudish, but I personally think that’s a little rude to the relationship. But everyone is different..What works for some, doesn’t work for others. I know I wouldn’t be okay with that.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@redheadem: I don’t flirt consciencously, and if a guy gave me his number I wouldn’t take it. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@redheadem: I would never take or give a number. I will innocently flirt, but anything beyond that doesn’t seem right to me. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My Fiance and I have the same idea on appropriate, which is “If SO saw me, how would they feel?”.

So I wouldn’t like to see my Fiance flirting with other girls, and he wouldn’t want to see me doing the same, so that is off limits.

I am okay with him going out with his buddies, I’m okay with him drinking, I’m okay with just about anything, but flirting is not okay, and getting a girls number by accident (i.e. girl forced it on him) and KEEPING IT is WAY past my line.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If it’s OK by them, it’s OK.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Every relationship is different.  If that works for them, it works for them.  That would not work for me, however, in my relationship with Darling Husband. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@redheadem: A guy wanted to buy me a drink when were out once and I said no. He ended up sending it to me anyways while I was CLEARLY with my Fiance. I sent it back to the bar and my Fiance was happy with that. We agreed that even though it was free, you can’t take a drink from someone who is clearly interested and ignoring you or else it might lead them on further.

Every relationship is different, but that is how we are.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

God, I cant even remember the last time I was hit on… something about this ring must really turn dudes off.  😉

But seriously.  I’m okay with Fiance talking to other women and having a social, casual conversation.  Once it heads into leading her on territory (or if she doesn’t care he’s engaged and wants to keep going), that’s when it needs to stop.  I would do the same for him.  But at NO point is giving or accepting someone’s number appropriate in my relationship.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I’m a super huge flirt, aaaalways have been and my bf knows that. But he also knows the difference between me just being a friendly flirt and if I were actually interested in a person.

He understands me and is pretty chill with the fact that I’m super friendly and pretty flirty in a really lighthearted way.

He on the other hand doesn’t flirt at all. We are just totally different people that way.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

No flirting & def no number exchanging. But that is just us. 🙂 Whatever works for someone else, well great! 

Post # 14
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879 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance and I go out seperatly.  Thats fine.  But we never flirt with other people or come home with numbers.

Fiance is a DJ, he is in semi retirement and only does Friday Nights these days (he used to do it full time).  Girls throw themselves at him.  They flash their tits and everything when they are drunk.  Its funny, but only because he does nothing to provoke it.  if he was encouraging it he would be in huge trouble with me, and the establishment he works for. HAHA.  And while he is at work, if he is having on of those nights, he texts me and tells me all and asks if I am jealous.  I’m never jealous, I’ll know he will come home to me. 😀

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am a huge flirt and even more so when I am drinking. My SO knows that about me and trusts me and knows I would never cheat. I go out without him and sometimes flirt, get free drinks and sometimes dance. I dance with our guy friends all the time. I never give out my number or take one. If a guy gets too touchy I tell him I have a SO and it’s done. Idk it works for us.

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