Post # 17
I knew FH was the one I wanted to spend my life with when we got to know each other and I experienced what a great person he is. I knew that I could be happy with him for the rest of my life once we started dating and I saw how much better my life was with him in it. Really, that’s the only way you can know. Love at first sight doesn’t work because you can’t romantically love a person without knowing them. ‘Love at first sight’ is just infatuation. I think a lot of people believe they ‘just knew’ right away because they were attracted to their SO when they first met and then obviously the relationship progressed and turned out well.
Post # 18
thanks for sharing that thread! At 2am, I didn’t think to search for a similar thread =)
Post # 19
I knew, most definitely. After the minute he introduced himself.
And while some of you may think this is total bologne, I have reasoning behind it.
3 years before I met my husband, my Mom surprised me with a visit from this psychic woman who reads all sorts of celebrities from Whoppi Goldberg to Hilary Clinton (she calls her every time she gets on a plane). Anyways, it cost my Mom an arm and a leg. I think it was something like $600 a reading.
Long story short – she did a reading with me for about an hour. Told me many things, most of which that have already come true. But the one thing that she told me was the first and last initial of my future Husband’s last name. “C” and “H”. At the time it sounded so weird and I couldn’t even THINK of a last name that started with and ended with those letters.
She told me that the minute I met him that I would know. And in the back of my head I would hear her say, “This is him.”
My current last name DOES start with a C and end with an H. And the minute he introduced himself, I heard her in my head telling me that it was him.
I called my Mom later that day and told her that I had met my future Husband and to save the voicemail. I then went home and asked my roommate at the time to record me on camera with a date stamp saying that I had met the man I was going to marry. My Mom still has the voicemail and my roommate became my Maid of Honor who played the video at our wedding!!
Post # 20
I didn’t know right off the bat, and DH and I knew each other for years before anything romantical happened between us. I’d say a couple of days into things did I think “ok, I’m in trouble…” lol
Post # 21
@soontobemrsm11: I knew right away. Maybe not from day 1, but pretty close. Something just clicked and felt right. And I had been engaged before, so for me to be able to see the difference made me even more confident! We met in July and were basically together every day after meeting. We were official by mid-August and by September we were already talking about wedding plans, although we waited a year just to be sure.
Post # 22
the very first time i saw my husband we both knew. i wouldnt say that we out-loud said we were going to get married but we were inseperable. drawn to eachother like moths to a flame. when you know you kinda know? lol
Post # 23
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Hm… I can see the “when you know, you know” argument on knowing that you are going to have a long-ish relationship instead of a less-than-one-year fling, but I’m sure all of the people out there getting divorced after 20, 30, 40 years were proven wrong about what they “knew.”
Post # 24
I knew pretty much right away! There was something very different in the way that I was attracted to him and everything was extremely natural and comfortable with him. I knew within the first couple of weeks that we were going to be married and we talked about it from the very beginning. We were 17 when we met and I was so sure before I met him that I wouldn’t get married until I was 25 with someone I met at university aha. Looking back, we both could have gotten our hearts crushed, because we were so trusting and open and discussed marriage and ‘forever’ from the first month. I’m really glad it worked out and I think we both ‘just knew’ that it would (:
Post # 25
I didn’t know from day one (actually, I texted my friend before our second date and said I wasn’t going to go out with him again) but definitely within the first month. I didn’t believe in that feeling before meeting him but he’s made a believer out of me.
Post # 26
I’ll never be one of those people who “just know”
I don’t know if that’s because I’m a person that weighs things to DEATH or because nobody can really “just know.”
How many people “just knew” and ended up getting divorced? It’s not for me to say but I will always have a slight moment of “wait…is this right?” no matter what. Jobs, adopting an animal, hair cuts, men, etc….
It’s just how I am.
Post # 27
We KNEW right away. Easily from day one. We said “i love you” after 3 days of meeting. That doesn’t mean we rushed things tho, we still took the time to get to know each other. And thats not to say i didn’t have my moments of doubt along the way… i had plenty thats just the way i am. But both of us knew from day one but Time proved it to be true.
Post # 28
You can “just know” that you have great chemistry with someone. You can’t “just know” that he has a consistently ethical character, or that he’s loyal even in the worst circumstances.
Post # 29
girl do I completely know what you mean. I am the EXACT same way. I will be questioning my decision to do EVERYTHING up until the minute I do it. I can’t imagine ever “knowing”. I had an old flame that I “just knew” we would be amazing together if we ever gave it a chance…wrong wrong wrong haha
Post # 30
I’m the same way! (And totally agree about how so many people just know
but the divorce rate is 50%…)
Post # 31
That is my thought as well. Not trying to be negative, but the weddingbee tends to have members who are engaged/recently married…so very few of us have a long enough success story to say that “knowing” turned out to be dead on.