(Closed) "when you know, you know"?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: do you agree?

    absolutely! I knew from day one.

    maybe for some people but not for me.

    no way! it takes time to really get to know each other

    other (explain)

  • Post # 47
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Well, I mean, when you’re in love you know. I don’t think you can magically know that you’ll marry someone as soon as you meet them, though. 

    Post # 49
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    Blushing bee

    I think you know they’re special but at the same time you have to go through a lot together to REALLY know

    Post # 50
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    The first time I met my Fiance I had this weird crystal clear voice in my head say ‘you’re going to marry him’ but I obviously disregarded that because crazy.  We went through a shitstorm right after we started dating and it would have been easier to walk away but I had this gut feeling that we could have something really, really great. So in a way, I did sort of know but I think it was more that I knew I had to see it through. We’ve been together for 5 years and it was really the day to day, ins and outs of life that I knew he was the one I wanted to share my life with. 

    Post # 51
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I chose “other”, because DH and I knew each other for about 2 years with minimal interaction, but our situation is a little unique so it wasn’t like we met and became friends or hit it off. But once we knew, we knew! It took us 2 weeks to go from barely knowing each other to let’s spend the rest of our lives together!  

    Post # 52
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I first met SO when I was 13 and obviously I wasn’t thinking about marriage at that age, but I knew there was something special about him because I would always think about him. When I was 17 I told him that one day I was going to marry him and have his babies (haha!) which I would think would scare anyone away but not him because the next day he asked me to be his girlfriend, so I guess we both “knew”. Almost 7 years later I am still so inlove with him.

    Post # 53
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @soontobemrsm11:  had to pick other bc I did ‘know’ but it was not on day 1 😉 I am a believer that incessant questioning means no. I also subscribe to the thought “if they like you you will know. If they don’t you’ll be ‘confused.'”

    Post # 54
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I definitely didn’t “know” from Day 1. It took about a year to get to the point where I realized “oh, I don’t ever want to be apart from this person!” 

    I didn’t feel very much physical attraction to my Fiance when I first saw him. I never went through that crazy infatuation phase. In our case, that turned out to be a good thing, but each couple is different for sure!!

    Post # 55
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I chose other because I can’t say I knew from day one.  After our 2nd date, I knew there was something REALLY special about our relationship.  After we’d been dating for 2 weeks, I felt brave enough to tell him that I thought he might be the one…  I would have never said it if I didn’t think he understood and I was right.  He had come out of a long-term relationship and was slightly more reluctant but it didn’t take long before he dove right in with me.

    Every day since then has further affirmed how I felt but I can’t tell you how or what it was that made me feel that way, I just knew.

    Post # 56
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I knew right away, but I believe it’s different for each person.

    Post # 57
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    All of my other relationships before Fiance, I KNEW

    When I met him, I was scared shitless. 

    Therefore, I knew right away. Laughing

    Post # 59
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    soontobemrsm11

    i think it makes sense. i mean of course when you know… you know. it doesnt have to be the moment you saw them. its like when it hits you (which can be on the 5th date) then it hits you like a ton of bricks and you just know its for sure. There was a moment for me, and it was simple, we were visiting his parents for the first time and he made me coffe (just the way i like it) and brought it to me. for some reason something clicked and i was thinking ild be crazy not to spend forever with him.  my DH says from day one he knew. and hes always told me that. its kind of redundent but yeah when you know you know. doesnt have to be right of the bat.

     

    Post # 60
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    @soontobemrsm11:  I think it might also depend on what stage of life you’re in when starting the relationship. Fiance and I started dating when I was 18 and he was 17 (end of our senior year of high school). We were heading off to college soon. I certainly wasn’t thinking “marriage” when we first started dating. But for people who are more toward the marriage phase, I can definitely see that you could “know” right away or early. Especially if you’ve dated several people. My only previous relationships were in high school (and middle school), so it’s not like I really know what I was looking for in marriage at that point!

    Post # 61
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Disagree 

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