(Closed) When you marry, how often will you have people over for a visit??

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow, every weekend? That’s a lot. I would feel the same if I were you. I plan to entertain about 2-3 times a month at the most when we marry. Of course, sometimes during the year I’ll know this number will go up like during basketball season when my Fiance will have his friends over to watch the game on our big screen. During this time, I’ll just take myself off to the mall or go have a girl’s night with my friends or sisters. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I think entertaining once every other week is ideal, perhaps small groups of friends (6 people – including us).  It gives us friend times, but at the same time doesn’t make it seem like a chore.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m just like you. I never go stir crazy and prefer to spend my time alone or with my fiance. I don’t know how often we’ll have guests over. I guess you’ll have to talk to your fiance when he feels like having guests over and see if you’re in the mood to have guests over. Just be sure to sometimes give in so that he can also be happy and entertain too. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m the same here, like to relax and have no visitors, it’s work to entertain. I’d say we have people over once everty two weeks.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

@Earlybride:  Like, never. I spent the weekend in my pajamas watching movies just because I could. LOL! If anything, I go out and see friends about once a week for dinner but thats about it.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t want anyone in my house.  Like ever.  My Fiance feels diferrently and is always trying to bring people over.  I came home one day to find two neighbors I dislike playing games and drinking a box of wine in my house after my long commute home.  When they finally left I had a talk with Fiance.  This is not okay and he didnt even warn me.

So answer, if I never had to have anyone ever I’d be happier.  When we lived back East still my cousin would drop by a lot.  I accomodated her because she is family, I care for her and she always asked and was polite.  Thats totally different from the neighbors just dropping by.  He would have his sister stay sometimes and that would annoy me, not because I don’t like his sister she is nice and well behaved for a teenager.  It’s just that she slept over so my whole weekend was gone.  She would stay one weekend every other month.  In both these cases though (cousin and sister) Fiance and I asked each other since we lived in the same apartmetnt.   I think one weekend every other month is probably an okay compromise with your situation if they are sleeping over, sleeping over every weekend is a bit much.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

That’s my fear also. He will want friends over all the time. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Artificial-Sweetener:  Did you talk to him about this?  I would try to maybe make a plan like hey I’m not okay with this you are lets come up with something that works for both of us.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We got married in December 2010 and have had people over once. Granted we live far away (atleast an hour) from friends and family, but we like our home being our personal space.

If we want to see people, we usually go out somewhere.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Entertaining becomes a very expensive thing to do – we have decided to go with quality over quantity – once a month we have friends over & we go all out with food & drink.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I love to entertain, I would do it more if I had the time. Usually I’m pretty beat from work and weekends are my catch up time, but I do enjoy having people over when I do fit it in. Actually that’s something about my Darling Husband and his family that really rubbed off on me; before I would have rather gone out over having people over, but after a few years with them I’ve really been inspired by their generosity and kindness towards their guests. If I could do it once a week or every other week we’d be happy, but it wouldn’t have to be something complicated – even just opening a bottle of wine with some appetizers would do. 

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

This obviously depends greatly on the couple. I look forward to having people over. I love entertaining but every weekend is hard and you start feeling like its a job so you def need strike a balance.

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