Post # 1
If you had your bridal shower yet…. quick question.
I attended a bridal shower where when the bride opened a card everytime she said “thank you for the gift of money”. Do you think etiquette-wise this is appropriate? If you open a card doesnt everyone pretty much know its money/giftcard? I want to be sure Im doing the correct thing at my shower next week!
Post # 3
I only got one card with a gift card in it, and everyone asked, “What’s in there?” So I had to announce what it was. I think it depends on your crowd and what they are used to, but mine wanted to know all the details of every gift.
Post # 4
I had my first bridal shower last weekend and got one check. I looked at the person and said “thank you” and the rest of the guests didn’t require any explanation. I think most guests can recognize a check in hand….I don’t think any elaboration is necessary.
Post # 5
All the showers I’ve attended, people knew what the gift was, because they saw the bride hold the cash/check/GC aside to read the note. Occasionally, someone would ask where it was to if it appeared to be a GC.
Post # 6
At most showers that I have gone to the bride didn’t even open the cards, just the presents. It’s kind of assumed that the cards either have money or gift cards in there.
Post # 7
I would say an identical robotic sentence of thanks for every gift and enevelope opened.
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s an etiquette issue, but I personally wouldn’t do it. I was at a bridal shower last month where I gave a check in the card and the bride just said “thank you, Rachel.” I’d likely do the same. I know that everyone likes to see what gifts you received, especially if it’s off of a registry so that they don’t give you something you already got, but I think it’s obvious that if there’s no gift to open it’s probably money of some sort. I’m a fairly private person, so I wouldn’t call out what each person gave me.
Post # 10
I have a pretty fun care free family and set of friends. When I opened a card with money or a gift card I said something funny usually like, “Shopping Spree!” or “New shoes from Macy’s!” Ettiquette wise I’m sure that was wrong but it made people laugh and kept it fun.
Post # 11
When I opened a gift card, I just said “A gift card from (store), thank you!” And when it was money , just thanked the person without saying anything about money.
Post # 12
what Treejewel19 said… everyone knew what it was.
Post # 13
The only people who gave me money were people who were not in attendance, so I did announce what I was opening and what I received (“Oh, Aunt Ceil was so thoughtful for the very generous check!”) but it was being videotaped and I wanted to make sure a thank you was on record :). But I think the robotic thank you for the gift of money statement is a bit off.
Post # 14
That is weird and rude to announce it to everyone, especially every single time. A simple “thank you” without any further elaboration as to what it is, etc, and then move on to the next gift would be more than appropriate. Contrary to popular belief, most adults are intelligent beings who can figure out what is what by looking at it. And they don’t turn into idiots at any other wedding-related event either, despite what everyone would have you believe.
Post # 15
I’m very personal with the amounts of money people give me as gifts, so I definitely wouldn’t say a dollar amount. I would just look at them and say thank you, or maybe something along the lines of “This was too generous of you. Thank you so much.” But not the same sentence for every person.
Post # 16
Awkward! I would not say that! I agree with the “This was too generous” of PP or even just a thoughtful sounding “thank you.” As a guest, I kind of assume a card without a gift box has money or a giftcard in it.