- Wedding: September 2014 - Garden outside our church
Thanks, everyone. It’s nice to have reassurance that I’m not being unreasonable. My only in-person friend who’s in a somewhat similar situation keeps carrying on that they’ve been together 8 years, so at least I’m not as bad as her—but they started dating when she was 16, we became a couple when I was 27. I just want to scream at her that it’s not the same!
I have spoken with him ad nauseum. He keeps saying that he’s sure and he needs to do something about it. He knew why I was upset yesterday. He kept apologizing. Nonetheless, I checked his online search history this morning, and last night after I went to sleep, and he was looking at kilts instead of sparklies. Obviously he’s not too motivated.
@chillinchillin: we’ve been together 7.5 years. Our wedding planning really only involves getting approval from our bishop, everything else we’ve either talked about or isn’t important to us.
@Creiddylad: Thanks–I thought it was a bit cruel as well. He just thought it was a pretty day and we should go to our favorite place. (which is exactly why we wanted to get married there yesterday.) Apparently he’d forgotten all about the date or even that he had mentioned this would happen now.
@mepayne: & @ElbieKay: After a full day of having the “I can’t believe you let this opportunity pass”, and tears, I was hoping a frantic Billy Crystal might add some humor to the situation.
@crystalrae: I wish I could think that he’s unaware of the timeline, alas, this time next year I’ll be in the midst of my Intern year–meaning trapped in the hospital.He keeps talking about us moving somewhere and is going with me to interviews.
@MariaW: You know, this whole actively waiting for him to do something is teaching me a lot about his personality that I didn’t fully appreciate before. I’ve come to understand that, in spite of being an excellent Army officer, he’s not very proactive in his personal life, things just happen to him. (both of his former marriages were initiated by the women telling him they were pregnant)
But it really was a pretty day and would have been perfect for either situation. Here’s a view from where we plan(ned) to stand