(Closed) When you think your friend is making a huge mistake…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

He is a grown ass man and can and will do whatever he wants.

 

Seriously.  Either it will work out, or it won’t.  Why does it matter to you?

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I say he’s a grown ass man. They’re moving in together–not eloping.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@shellyjean: If they were getting married i MIGHT say something…but they are just moving in together…all is fine!! 🙂

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Sometimes it’s hard because you want to protect your friend.  BUT a friend of mine met a guy, moved in with him a month later, got engaged about 3 months after that, got married and have been happily married for years.  So hey, who knows.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t say anything, this is not your business.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If it doesn’t work out they will find that out. My parents met and got married within 6 months of everything and my mom was only 19. They’ve been married for 30 years. Sometimes people don’t need time.

I doubt anything you say will even matter, as he’s old enough to make his own decisions.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

As you said, he is a grown ass man and can and will do whatever he wants.

If it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t work out.  But maybe it will!  It’s not like they’re the first people to ever move in together quickly.  It actually happens all of the time!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I can sense your concern and understand why you are so there’s no need to be rude.  I guess you see it as an “infatuation” stage right now.  Especially because he was single for awhile.  But there’s really not much you can do.  If you’d like to voice your concern, then do so.  But definitely be polite about it.  Other than that, he’s on his own.  I wish the best of luck to him.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I moved in with an ex after like 3 weeks. My friends told me I was crazy but did I listen? No, because I can make my own decisions. All there comments did was piss me off and make me stay with my ex longer than I should have because I didn’t want them to be right. Life lessons I guess. I wouldn’t say anything, let him them figure it out on their own.

Post # 13
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354 posts
Helper bee

Mr.G gave me a key to his house and car a month or less after we started dating.  I moved in about a month after that.  Now that I have my own car, he has the spare key (in case I lock myself out, or he wants something faster than his car hehe), and yup, we’re still living together.  Have we fought, yup.  Did we make up, yup.

Life is so damn short!  If he’s happy let him be.  He’s grown and he will do what he wants to do…mistakes and all.  Be a loving and supportive friend no matter what happens, and he will love you for it.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

My Gmom once commented to me about how old and wise she is and how she constantly sees younger people making big mistakes and wishes she could stop them. But imagine how obnoxious that would be!

We should be allowed to make our own mistakes and while this might be one, it’s not your place to speak up. If two adults have decided to move in together after 4 months, I promise they won’t change their minds after a friend warns them that it’s a bad idea. They might just choose not to hang out with that friend anymore.

Post # 15
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Honey bee

If we didn’t have roommates/leases at the time, we probably would have moved in together after 4 months. We had to wait until 11 months because of those things, but we new very early on that we wanted to live together. A few friends gave me a hard time about it and 3 years later I’m still a little hurt and don’t feel as close to them. And fwiw, we are still going strong and very very very rarely have a fight.

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