(Closed) When your best friend changes.

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Is it possible you can write her an email or talk to her over text? This might be advice in the wrong direction, but I’m the type of person that I really like things resolved. If it were me, I’d want to get in touch with my friend and just let her know how much you value her friendship and you are really sorry you missed out on your plans. Let her know that things have been sort of crazy in your life recently, and her friendship would help get through some rough times. Then I’d attempt to make future plans with her.

On the flip side, if you can’t resolve this before tonight- don’t worry. If you really think this is the proposal night, during you and your bf’s plans you won’t be thinking about this. You’ll be too excited.

Post # 4
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Can you do something sweet for her to just let her know that even though you had to cancel, you still <3 her? You’ll definitely want her by your side when you’re wedding planning! Can you maybe give her a small Starbucks gift card or make her a card just to let her know you value her friendship?

Also, I’m sorry (almost) everything seems to be going wrong for you :(.

Post # 5
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with jo.lee…… reach out to her and let her know your thinking about her.  I am sorry that there is so much to worry about for you now…  See if you could do something sweet for her before you leave town?  Maybe call her and talk to her i’m sure she misses your company too.

Post # 7
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3167 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@artichokesalad: i wouldn’t let it phase me. you said you were sorry and you have a lot going on. if this is something you’re prone to do though (cancelling plans), then maybe you should take this chance to look at your actions – though, if you’re this aware of it, I don’t think you are. No way should you tell your Boyfriend or Best Friend to postpone. 1) he may not be anyways 2) if he is, there’s no reason that a tiff with your friend should have any bearing on when you and your FH take the next step towards marriage.

Post # 8
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2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I think “I’m not mad, just disappointed” is somewhat of a good statement.  She’s probably a bit scared at losing you when you get married (if she’s not already).  My BFF and I have known eachother for 25 years.  We’ve both gone through a lot of changes and there were times I didn’t know if we would continue being friends, but our friendship is better than ever.  Ups and downs are normal.  Be excited for tonight and put everything else out of your mind!

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