- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
If you and your DH/SO/FI both have careers, how did you both find jobs in the same location? How did you decide where to live? Did one of you have to change your career for the other? Did you make career decisions with this in mind?
Please share your story/ experience and if you want to keep reading and vote on my situation, double thanks!
My situation: I have a Bachelor’s degree in science, but I’m finding that it isn’t worth much and is very limiting in the types of jobs I’m qualified for, so at some point I need to pursue further schooling to have a decent career in the future. I’m now at a crossroads where I have to choose among several different career paths and different types of schooling to reach them. (I’m omitting details to hopefully make this easier to follow).
The problem is that my husband also has an established career. His job opportunities are almost entirely in rural areas, with the possibility of working in a couple of metro areas. Because his salary and earning potential is much higher than mine (in any of the careers I choose), we will always have to live where he finds a job, and we may have to move every few years, depending on his job market. He will of course try to find jobs in metro areas with job opportunities for me, but it’s not guaranteed.
Let’s call my dream career, ‘A’. The job opportunities in this field are declining, and almost all of them are in major cities, but not the cities where Darling Husband may be able to work. If I were a single girl, I would probably go to school and pursue ‘A’. It requires a graduate degree which is expensive and probably not worth pursuing if I can’t move for job opportunities. It may be possible but supremely difficult to find a telecommuting position.
Another option for me is career ‘B’. This would also require some further schooling, but not quite as much as ‘A’, and not quite as expensive as ‘A’. It is likely to have more job opportunities than ‘A’ in the places we’re going to live, but still not guaranteed, especially if we end up in a very rural area. This type of work doesn’t appeal to me as much as ‘A’.
Option ‘C’ is to start from scratch and do something portable– start my own business, or learn a new skill that can be done entirely freelance/from home.
Option ‘D’ is just play it by ear, don’t pursue any further schooling, and just look for jobs that I’m already qualified for. This doesn’t really appeal to me because I’m not a “play it by ear” kind of person.