- 5 years ago
Hello! I have been lurking around the waiting boards awhile since I am in that pre-engagement part of my relationship. But I finally had something come up that I would appreciate any advise about since I am a bit stuck on how to process what just happened.
My ex-husband who I have a great relationship with (seriously, long story but very true) just got popped the question to his girlfriend. I’m sincerely happy for them, she is a fantastic girl. The part that I am “upset” about (if that is even the right emotion??) is that my FF was most likely planning on proposing to me in the next week or two. The ring has been hidden for about 6 months, I know it’s going to happen – it was just waiting for the perfect surprise moment.
However, now I don’t know what to think. FF is upset too. I fear that if FF pops the question in the next week or two, it will look really bad. Does that make any sense? Like I got PO’d about ex hubby getting engaged so I put pressure on FF to do it? Or that I was too jealous? Or that we are trying to steal their thunder? Am I overthinking this????? Is there an ettiqutte Q/A about how long we should wait??
What sucks too is that I was so looking forward to being asked. I know FF was going out of the way to make it a perfect proposal. And ex hubby and I eloped so I never got to have an engagement…well anything. Now I am feeling so upset and anxious about it, I still want it to happen but grrrrr! Help!
Oh and P.S. – If it helps FF and I have been together for almost 2 years, ex and his now fiance have been together for about 9 months.