Post # 32
@BrideToBe14: Don’t pay mind to grumpy ass people. I get what you mean, it’s like missing the lotto and the regular numbers that you play, actually came out on the day you didn’t.
Well basically the past is the past…and if you love your Fiance like you say you do, then it’s worth so much more than money.
FWIW I would never want to be that rich. It seems depressing and miserable to me.
Post # 33
@rickhurst35: Thanks for your opinion:) have a wonderful amazing day
Post # 34
He was a skater boy, she said, “See ya later, boy.” He wasn’t good enough for her. Now he’s a superstar Slammin’ on his guitar Does your pretty face see what he’s worth?
Post # 35
@BrideToBe14: How’d they make their millions? What do that do now?
Post # 36
@BrideToBe14: My dad used to make quite a bit of money (into the millions), and he gave all that money up to live the life he always dreamed of as a farmer. He is SOO much happier now, reads his bible everyday, and values the things that *really* matter in life.
I can say without hesitation, that money doesn’t equate to happiness, and anybody who has ever had money can attest to that.
Post # 37
PS: I think people think you actually wish you still had a shot with these men, or that you regret whole heartedly that you left them for your now Fiance that may be why you’re getting the flack that you are.
If you are just saying, damn if times were different and I played my cards differently, I woulda been a millionare, holy shit. Then that’s something else. That’s how I took your post anyway.
Post # 38
@BellaDee: Thanks for the positive remarks I appreciate it. Some ppl act like its so appalling that I am even thinking these thoughts, yet I am sure they think about things I wouldn’t agree with sometimes as well. It’s nice to hear someone understands what I am saying. I know I am being a brat, but I don’t care, I wanted to express myself, lol.
Post # 40
@BrideToBe14: I lived it, married in it for 10 years. It wasn’t happiness. Being given materialistic things constantly instead of love, hugs, attention….sucks, none of it bought my happiness or gave me what I needed or longed for in a marriage.
Post # 41
@BrideToBe14: You’re not a terrible person.
But you do seem to be a person who is very focused on material things and feeling the lack, based on your posts.
Also, are you really happy in your relationship? You’re not married yet, you can step back from it if you need to. You deserve to feel fulfilled in your life. And you seem to be feeling some emptiness. It takes a lot more than a lot of money to make your heart and soul happy. I’ve been rich and I’ve been poor – and rich is better – but only if you have someone you deeply love to share it with, at least in my opinion.
Trust me, it would be better for you to get out of it sooner rather than be divorced later (speaking from personal experience here).
Post # 42
@BellaDee: Yeah that is true, I wouldn’t rather be with these guys, I am just saying yeah, life could of been easier and it is hard to see them making so much money., Money isn’t everything and doesn’t buy happiness. I am just having a hard time with my funds right now and its hard seeing their freakin life in the spotlight..
Post # 43
@BrideToBe14: I understand where you’re coming from. My ex isn’t making millions, but he’s making a lot. He also has no student loan debt and a ton of money in his savings.
However, I am SO happy I am not with him anymore, and that I’m with Fiance. What Fiance and I make combined will not equal what my ex will make in one year. But I would so rather have it that way and be completely and utterly smitten with Fiance than be with my wealthy ex.
Remember, money is the root of all evil.
Post # 44
I wouldn’t want to marry someone I’d have to “stick it out with” just so I could be rich. So you would be rich but probably miserable? No thanks.
Post # 46
@BrideToBe14: I hear you, I think the word jealous just has a negative connotation. you are acknowledging the fact that you would be rolling in dough had you stayed with one of those men, and that their wives would be finanically set. however like a PP stated and you already clarified you would should never tell Fiance as Im sure it will make him feel unappreciated.
just try to think about why you made the decision to leave those baseball players and what attracted you to your Fiance. I know think about the positive is so cliche, but its all you can really do. I would be concerned however if you think about them on a constant basis, bcus you dont want to be starting at your Husband 10 years from now and still wishing you had married someone else. so just make sure this is what you really want.
Just to add. I dated an ex whom I loved dearly (sometimes he didnt treat me as great) that made alot of “quick” money if you know what I mean (had no idea assumed it was from his job). so I could have stayed and gotten paid sure, now im with a guy that I didnt give the time of day before (but that takes care of my heart better) and was recently extended an offer and is now pretty much guaranteed to see six figures upon graduation (currently in college) & I chose him without knowing the possible money he was going to make.
I say that to say money isnt everything, although millions are tempting, it doesnt change whats in the heart. u can have all the money in the world and still not treat a person well, there had to be some reason you left. try to remember that.