Post # 77
@BrideToBe14: I haven’t read any of the other responses – but want to add my 2 cents. When I was in college, I was set up with this guy, and we went on a date. He was very nice, really super quiet, and there was zero chemistry. I got through the date, and was surprised that he was interested in me and pursued me after…I figured he must have felt the same lack of chemistry. Anyway, the set up was made by one of my good friends and I know she was kind of annoyed that I didn’t hit it off with him.
After we all graduated, she said to me, “hey so you know that guy I set you up with, well, he’s a millionaire now.” Like that should have made me rethink my decision back then. I’m sorry, but money or not, he wasn’t the right guy! Those two guys you are now daydreaming about were obviously not right for you, or you would not have thought you could “do better”. And thinking that way is not helpful to your current relationship. Let it go!
Post # 78
@BrideToBe14: Define hard?
Do you toil in a field on a 100 degree plus day for pennies? Do you wonder where your next meal is coming from, live on the street or in a ramshackle house or in a comfortable home with heat, air-conditioning, a dishwasher, stove, microwave and refrigerator full of food?
Maybe these guys wives are idle trophies who do nothing but worry about the day their first wrinkle appears. Or maybe they are industrious and interesting in their own right. Money can buy you some fun and lovely things for sure but it’s no guarantee against misfortune or unhappiness.
Post # 79
So much judgement in this thread!
OP, I’ve had the “coulda, woulda, shouldas” before. I think we all have! My ex is living in DC, where I always dreamed of being when I was in college. I get a little envious of that sometimes! The important thing is that even though you vent and think, “ugh what if?” you recognize that you are 100% happy and in love now and that’s all that matters. Sounds like you know that you made the right choice, you just get a little green with envy sometimes. No biggie. It’s not a crime to get a tiny bit jealous. It’d be a whole nother story if this jealousy made you unhappy and affected your relationship with your Fiance.
Now that you vented, start thinking of all the ways your life is 100x better than it would be with your exs. I bet you see Fiance more often, you know what he’s doing and with whom, no groupie women fawning over him, no issues related to that wealth and fame, etc etc.