- 6 years ago
This has more to do with a lack of effort than actual skill. When we do have sex, it’s pretty good, I’d say. But he will rarely put in the effort to get me off – once he’s done, he’s done. I’ve even gotten those false promises of, “Okay, FINISH ME, and then I’ll finish you.” Ladies, it’s a LIE. If he says it, 99 times out of 100, it’s because he knows that once he’s done, he can use the “meh, not interested” line to get off the hook! 😀
I buy all of the toys to bring into our bedroom. I’m the one who looks up new positions to try. I buy books on the subject. I’m the one looking through sexy time board games. I’ve asked him to make some effort into bringing something into the bedroom – looking up a new position, buying a toy, etc. He gives me the “I’m clueless” line. I’ve never been into a sex store – I order everything online. I’ve asked him to do the same. Nothin’.
So oftentimes, it’s missionary, over and over and over again. *Sigh*
He had a sex partner before me. Alas, he’s my first and only. I do often wonder what it would be like to sleep with other people. Besides this aspect of our relationship, everything else is pretty fine. Unfortunately for me, he’s not into opening up our relationship to other partners (Drat!).
He’ll make comments and jokes about sex often. Why can’t you perform though, boy! Why?
It gets tiring having a partner who’s lazy in bed. It gets tiring pleasing him, then finishing myself. The worst part? He doesn’t even seem bothered by it. We’ve talked and talked about it. He’ll express guilt during those conversations about not getting me off…then he’ll make an effort a few times (sometimes finishing me, sometimes not)…and then it’s right back to the same old stuff.
I don’t want to be the naggy wench constantly harping on him to please her, but seriously. I would be embarrassed and ashamed if I were that selfish in bed and I couldn’t even do my boyfriend the decency of acting a little bit ashamed that I didn’t even bother trying to get him off.
Is there any hope? I’m not BIG on having a great sex life (obviously, I guess – lol), but an improvement would be nice. Or perhaps a small harem on the side for sexy time. You know, whatever works.