(Closed) when your SO proposed where you expecting it, shocked or fed up waiting,?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 31
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icydarebel:  We had talked about getting married from the moment we started dating.  I knew he was the one and vice versa.  We planned out our entire life together in a month.  Then whoops, I got pregnant.  I finished college, and we focused on raising our child together.  All marriage talk stopped for a couple of months.  It wasn’t until we were in the third trimester that talk came up again.  I hoenstly forget who brought it up but we decided to wait until after she was born.  We didn’t want anyone to think we only got married because I got pregnant.  He has said “I would marry you tomorrow if you want.”  It was me, who turned him down and said I wanted him to know if he was really ready.

We didn’t talk about marriage until the month before we got engaged.  We had our daughter back in January, and the talk of engagement came up after we made a year (of dating, yes, I got pregnant within two weeks of us dating, but we didn’t find out until much later), and he was convinced I wanted a diamond “All girls want diamonds, diamonds are forever.”  I straightened him out and said no, I don’t want a diamond.  We ended up picking iolite together and 5 days after that ring arrived he proposed (on Easter).  he asked me to be his girlfriend on easter 2013.  So it was a surprise on the day he proposed, not the proposal itself.  I knew it was happening, I just didn’t know when, and I honestly didn’t think he would be so sentimental on the day he picked (he’s very practical).

Post # 32
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  • Wedding: May 2016

I knew! 

We had been together for 4 years 8 months. We had custom designed my ring and I told him that it would mean a lot to me if he proposed in Hawaii. Both of my parents have passed away and that’s where they went on their honeymoon. I told him I felt like there would be some sort of connection to my parents if it happened there. Idk how to explain it, but his mom has also passed away so he understands me lol. 

My ring was suppose to be ready before we left, but about 6 days before we were leaving I got an email from the jeweler finalizing my ring and said that it hadn’t even been started yet. I freaked out, I mean, crying for 4 hours and hoping that my boyfriend was playing a cruel joke on me. Turns out he had no idea and thought it was almost finished. I had one of his mom’s diamond bands and also a stand in ring. When we were packing he asked me which one I would rather have and I told him I didn’t care. Well I freaked out in the middle of the night because I thought I lost them and when I tore the house apart I couldn’t find them. Turns out he had them hidden in his room.

Well we went to Hawaii and had an awesome time. I didn’t start worrying about it til about the 3rd day there. The second day we went shark cage diving and then did a helicopter tour. I thought he might do it that night since that would’ve been the only way to make that day more amazing, but when it didn’t happen I started to wonder. The next morning we went on a sunrise hike that I had been so excited about. I thought I saw the outline of the ring box in his pocket so the whole time on the hike I was like “okay, act normal. get your shit together. if he ask, be shocked”… well I portrayed my nervousness onto him because I thought he was acting weird the whole time. It still didn’t happen. The next day we went on another hike to a waterfall and still…NOTHING. 

The last day we were there, we did a hike that we had done the first time we went. Well right before we left we discovered that my debit card had been stolen the night before and used so we had to take care of that. He kept apologizing and freaking out because he was the one that was suppose to be holding on to it. Well again, I thought I saw the outline of the box. Back to trying to convince myself to act normal haha. We get to the top of Diamond Head and there are a TON of people. I gave up hope because I didn’t think he would do it around a bunch of people. I kept trying to get us somewhere quieter but he wouldn’t do it, which was weird because he had been wanting to trail blaze all week lol. Well I go sit under the bunker to get away from people and he squeezes under there with me. He tells me that when this couple moves he wants us to take a pic. So they leave and he gives my phone to some random guy. He talks to him and I’m getting suspicous. He told the guy that he was about to propose and to keep taking pics. So we take a normal one and then he gets down on one knee! He said that he had been waiting to do it on Diamond Head because my parents have a lot of pics of it from their honeymoon, but I kept pushing it back til the last day! That night we had engagment pics done! 

Sorry for my long story! I love looking back on the happy times of my proposal because the day after my grandpa passed away so I had to come straight home and plan a funeral. So here’s a pic of it! 

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

My Fiance were together just under 5 years when he proposed. We had two properties together, lived together since around the 12 month mark and had also lived with his parents for 2 years. I was dying for him to propose and couldnt understand what was taking so long lol

I always thought i would know when he was doing it as he can never do anyting without me knowing as im super nosey! Yet he managed to organise designing the ring and getting it made by a close friend who is a jewler and also managed to suprise me when we were on a nice day out about 2 hours north from home having lunch by the water. I had organised the day out so i wasnt suspicious at all!  One thing i didnt realise when we left the house he said he forgot his wallet so ran back up to get it yet when we got home he pulled champagne out of the fridge that he had snuck in when he went back to “get his wallet”

We get married this coming march and 3 days later will be our 6 year anniversary ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 34
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Busy bee

I was furious!  We’d only been together 6 months or so. I freaked out, broke up with him and it took him ages to talk me into giving him another chance. He asked twice more (with the same reaction from me) before I was convinced to say yes. I swear I’m the only anti-marriage girl I’ve ever met. 

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Akron, OH

OK OK, I’m still in waiting BUT SO and I have a timeline .. he plans on proposing in February for my birthday or valetnines day (although the date/reason was never discussed, I’m only assuming). All I know it’s happening sometime in February and because I know this I do get worried that I won’t be as shocked or surprised. I guess I”m just excited for it to finally happen but I hope me knowing doesn’t ruin the shock factor .. I’m sure he has something planned up his sleeve that will catch me off gaurd, but it’s hard to let things slip past my radar, so we’ll see. 

Post # 36
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Blushing bee

I’m still waiting, but I’m 95% sure it’s happening on my birthday next weekend. My family has been acting strange haha.

Post # 37
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Newbee

Same here we were together for almost 7 years and I was really stressed about it and got more anxious after pre marital counseling was done in April I just got engaged 4 days ago on Christmas. Just talk to him about it express what you want and leave it to him to do it when he is ready, don’t do like I did and keep bringing it up it only prolongs it!

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I knew and was expecting it, definitely not fed up waiting. My fiance and I are both very practical. We had talked about it and had decided we wanted to marry each other. When we first talked about it I told him he had to ask my dad before he could propose.  Shortly thereafter he asked me about rings and I showed him some I liked. He had looked and found a similar one he liked better and confirmed the style with me. That was back in September/October. 

We didn’t see my parents again until Thanksgiving so I knew he would ask my father then – he even told me what he said after he asked (“well I guess she’s got to marry someone and I guess its gonna be you. She’s not gonna change her name you know. And be warned! All women want kids eventually.” hahaha I love my father)  

I wasn’t totally sure if he had the ring yet (though I suspected he did) and didn’t know when he would ask. But turned out he had had it for a couple weeks and it was burning a hole in his pocket. I worked a night shift Thanksgiving night, took a nap after my parents left the next day, and as soon as I woke up that afternoon he asked if I wanted to go for a walk (we go for walks together almost daily). At the end of the walk when we were walking back onto our property he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. Simple. Sweet. Perfect for us.

We’d been together for a year and 3 months, we had moved in together 3 months before the engagement and we’re getting married in early February (again we’re very practical, we don’t really understand year long engagements, we would elope if it wasn’t for family so we’re going to just get the wedding done). I wasn’t fed up waiting because I am happy just being with him, and I really don’t expect being “married” to change anything – its not going to change how we act to each other or feel about each other.  Probably a faster timeline than many but we are also 30 and 34, so a little older than a lot of other people here and we’re very well established in our careers and finances, and know what we want.

Post # 39
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Busy bee

I knew. But i was also fed up waiting. Well 8.5 years is a long time!!!

 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I was shocked and waiting, but had finally made peace with the waiting stage. I figured it would be a year or two. He has been going to lunch with his mom quite a bit and it turns out they were discussing my ring (she works with jewelry and he went through her and used a diamond she had). He randomly took me to dinner, which was odd, and proposed to me the day he got my ring back. It was a random day and I absolutely love that. Everyone asks the significance behind that day, well, that’s the day he did it so now it’s special because of that. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I knew he had the ring for about a month but never knew or cared to look for where he put it. I also had a suspicion about the proposal the day he proposed, but I never expected him to bring family (from two different states) to nyc. That was the best surprise ever, even if it wasn’t a total surprise. I got a lot of hints the past week and he kept saying it was my special day. And he seemed tense and fidgety which was really cute. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 42
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I was completely shocked. We had booked a trip to Vegas in April for our 5 year dating anniversary in October. Shortly after that people (his family in particular) had been hounding him about proposing already. He was getting a little hostile towards them, so I pretty much figured it’d happen, but a few years down the road yet.

We got to Vegas in October and they upgraded our room free of charge and we were estatic. We got to the room and I started to unpack some things and he asked me if it could get any better. I (having no idea he was proposing, my back was to him, lol) said no…we’d gotten upgraded for free…and we were in VEGAS! What’s better than that? I turned and he said “it’d be perfect if you’d marry me” and popped open the box. I was SO shocked in fact, I jumped 15 feet away from him like he had a damn spider hidden in that thing!

Apparently he bought the ring in August, and even asked my Dad (or more so said “hey, i’m asking her in Vegas in Octboer, you ok with that?” lol) and it was still a complete shock.

Post # 43
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - The Gables at Chadds Ford

I was itching for it but really didn’t expect it until maybe around Christmas or New Year’s (it was a couple of weeks before Thanksgiving). I really thought we were just going out to a simple dinner with his sister and brother-in-law. Much to my delight, I was wrong! I was very, very surprised that it happened that night.

 

Apparently he had it planned for a couple months and had been hiding the bag with the ring/papers in the ceiling in the basement!! It had already been in the works when I had a mini, PMS-fueled meltdown about other people getting engaged and how I wanted to be engaged as well and why weren’t we yet? So I was very surprised and felt quite foolish when all was said and done…but ecstatic!

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Post # 44
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It was weird because we did pre marital counseling finished that in April he just proposed on Christmas so I was expecting it to happen but after 4-5 months had passed after counseling I started to get depressed, felt strung along and was just fed up waiting. Kinda regret talking about it as much as I did but oh well I became obsessed crazy thinking back on it now.

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icydarebel:  I was totally stunned even though he had been dropping MAJOR hints for 4 months leading up to the proposal. In the past I had high expectations (not for a proposal but other things) where he “let” me down so I was trying not to think about a proposal coming so as to avoid the disappointment. Instead he pulled a not-so-fast one on me and proposed ๐Ÿ™‚ It was all caught on film which, to this day, I will not let anyone see!

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