(Closed) When your spouse doesn’t support your goals…

posted 8 years ago in Fitness
Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If it’s something I (you) really want, I wouldn’t care. I would do it without his support.

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@7SEVENJ9: I agree. He needs to express why in big boy language as to why you shouldn’t. If you haven’t already ask him to tell you why exactly he doesn’t want you to participate and “stupid, or too far” isn’t a reason. If he has no legit reason, go for it- have a run buddy to support you in his absence if need be.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@7SEVENJ9: Good luck with your discussion!

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

He should be proud of you, and I’m sure that somewhere in there he is. He sounds like an old man. My father still yells at my mother every time she shovels snow because he is convinced she’s going to drop dead. Take him to a doctor’s appointment with you and discuss how this could affect your health positively and negatively. If he hears some things you could do to stay safe he may feel like he has more control over the situation. I can imagine it would be pretty scary if he thought it was going to harm you in some way so if you and he both learn about healthy and safe running I think he will feel more comfortable.

If he just misses you and feels like you’re always running could you involve him in your training? I went to school with a couple where the girl was the best runner in the state and ran like 10 miles a day. Her bf would ride his bike beside her when she ran so they could hang out.

If you try to work through it with him and he’s just stubborn about it just ignore him and run it anyways. He won’t even be able to hide how proud he is.

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@7SEVENJ9:Aw I had a feeling that’s where he was coming from…that’s how my Darling Husband is too. His concerns definitely seem legitimate. Sometimes it’s just as fun to just train harder for the shorter ones! You can still do long runs without the race environment and just use that extra endurance to excel in your shorter races. A sprint tri sounds like so much fun, I have a few friends who’ve done them and absolutely loved them! Plus, it’s always a treat (at least for me!) when my Darling Husband agrees to do a race or something like that with me since it’s not his “thing” like it is mine 🙂

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

So glad to hear this came from a good place.  If my fiance said he didn’t want me to run a half marathon, I would run a full.  Luckily, he’s driving me to my back to back half marathons in the spring and has driven and cheared every single race I have ever run.

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