Post # 1
Buy gifts only off the registry (cash excluded)?
I’ve seen a lot of people talk about how most people don’t end up buying off the registry… just curious if this is common practice.
I don’t mean handing down a family gift, or something non registry related, I mean a home good or item that would be found on a registry, but wasn’t requested.
Kind of makes me nervous if it’s the case!
ETA: for example, if someone noticed the couple didn’t register for any coffee mugs, and decided to buy them a set anyway.
Post # 3
I only buy off registry for the shower and the gift for the wedding is always cash/check
Post # 4
I usually do. However, I had a special request from my friend who was the bride to give her a piece of my art. That is the only time I’ve ever strayed.
Post # 5
I do if it’s a family member or someone who I am not super close friends with. I usually don’t if it’s a very good friend of mine. I once went to Bed, Bath & Beyond to get my friend a gift off her registry. They printed off the full registry for me (lots of pages0 and basically sent me off on my own. I was so overwhelmed by it all that I just bought whatever I could find and left.
Post # 6
I always stick to the registry or give a gift card to one of the registry stores if I can’t afford something or only random items are left.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
The only time I’ve ever bought an item not on the registry was to give a bottle of wine to accompany some wine glasses I bought (from the registry). We had a few people do something like that for us for our wedding (a bottle of red with a decanter, and a REALLY good bottle of white with our white wine glasses), and we were really happy about it!
Post # 8
Yes! If they took the time to create the registry, I take the time to shop off of it. And if I don’t it’s because we are giving cash.
Post # 9
I normally get something off of the registry and something else that’s not. Sometimes they coordinate, sometimes they don’t but I like to add something personal. Of course, if we don’t know the couple that well, we stick to the registry.
Post # 10
I absolutely think small things off the registry or personal things are great – we did that for Future Sister-In-Law & FBIL’s wedding gift. Maybe it’s older relatives that people talk about buying off the registry more? Somehow I could see them “knowing better.” haha.
Post # 11
Yes, Even for close friends. I just look at the list and get something off the list that compliments our friendship.
We went to a couples shower a few weeks ago for some friends of ours. We went to BB&B that morning and chose a blender from their registry. Gave the registry papers, it was taken off, we got it wrapped and left.
That night, BEFORE our present was opened…. a male friend got them the same blender! I was so mad! lol. I mean, really, what’s the point of printing off a registry and then not even getting the item taken off!?
Of course, about 10 min. later ours was opened and WE were the butt of the jokes. grrrrrr
Post # 12
@KLP – I’ve seen that same thing happen at countless showers. It sucks that yours was opened second since you were the ones who stuck to the registry. I don’t get why people wouldn’t take the extra time to hand over the registry paper to the cashier!
Post # 13
I agree with ErinMarquerite–something off the registry and then something not from the registry that is “special”, not a blender that I think they should have picked, but something that they wouldn’t or couldn’t have registered for–something meaningful or “heirloom-y”. If I don’t know them, usually money or something from the registry. We received so many great things that we never would have registered for though, so don’t worry too much about receiving stuff you don’t want…We had a running gag in my cooperative house where we passed down a really ugly painting from one bride to the next 🙂 There is always Goodwill!
Post # 14
I usually do, unless there’s some specific reason not to. The couple took the time to figure out what they want and need and I think it would be rude if you just disregard their registry and bought whatever you wanted. Granted, I know there’s instances and that’s fine but for the most part, that’s the reason why there are registries.
Post # 15
The only time I would ever shop off the registry (and I haven’t ever done this so far) would be if I got a really good deal on the same exact product somewhere else. Like, same exact brand, color, size, everything. And even then I would try to contact the store where they were registered and say something like “Oh I bought this for them but I forgot to tell you to mark it down, could you do it now?” and see if I could prevent a double that way.
I think older generations do shop off registry more. I remember my mom and aunt describing a shower gift they got for a cousin of mine. They went on the registry and saw what color towels and sheets she wanted, and then went and bought a completely different set at a different store that they thought was better (which knowing them meant cheaper). I tried to explain to them why that was not a good idea, but they wouldn’t hear of it. ugh.
Post # 16
I usually stick to the registry but I do occassionally stray. I just threw my Future Sister-In-Law a shower and I was the first to know about her registry so I got to look at it before any invitations went out and bought my gift. I got a few baking things that were on there but there were a LOT of holes of things I know are helpful when baking and I knew they didn’t have them. And, since the registry was small and it was a HUGE shower (45 people) I didn’t want to take the entire registry so I got her some extras not on the registry in addition to a few from it.