Halo094 : I understand how you feel. I try to focus on my own life and what’s good in it and that’s not always easy. And the thing is you have no clue what thier lives look like behind the lovely social media image they have. I was just having this talk with my friend the other day.
She feels like a failure, and that everyone else is happier and more successful than her. And then I told her everything that didn’t get shown on my social media. That awesome job I had right after college? Yeah, it wore me out emotionally, and my last month I cam home from work every day crying. And then I quit after the company had a brutal layoff. On social media, it looked like I was having the time of my life, going camping and cashing in my ari miles to visit friends. But I definitely didn’t show the panic attacks that followed and the humilation of having to ask my parents for money after it too me WAY longer to find a gig. And the high profile job I got after? Well I spent 3 months getting yelled at my an angry german man, which was followed by a huge team merger and then I was scrambling to keep my job.
But all the time, it looked like my life was an endless easy vacation filled with money and easy jobs. I mean what, was I going to post on FB that 2 of my best friends ended up in rehab after too many years of the drinking culture that surrounded my industry? Or that the impossible work schedules, long commutes and high cost of living where wearing down on my relationship? Or that I missed my family all the time and felt like I was missing everything, but I couldn’t afford plane tickets home. NO. Just a cute pic of my and my Boyfriend or Best Friend in front of the Golden Gate bridge. That stuggle isn’t cute.
AND all the while, I was pretty jealouse of HER. She got all these scholarships because seh was such a good student and isn’t buried in student debt. She would go on archeaoligal digs in europe in the summers. I want my masters, but there was no way I could afford it. And there she was getting her PHD. She was only an hour away from home, and got to be around when her nieces where born and help plan her borthers wedding. She visited my Dad after his heart attack. Some days I was just DYING for a switch. And then we laid it all out in a super long phone call, and we where jealous of each other the entire time. But we where both depressed, having panic attacks, dealing iwth suicidal thoughts. I think laying it all out helped us.
Some people who we think have it better, have it the same. Somne people who have it better now, will have it worse later on. Some people just have it better. We all get jealous. It’s normal. I know I’m trying to be kind to my one friend, who seemed to be doing better and could throw a more lavish wedding, but then her Fiance get laid off. I tell yeah, I almost cried when she told me all the effort her Fiance put into her really expensive perfecly thought out ring, while I was wearing some bastardized version that got screwed up by the jeweler that was a fraction of the cost. But then my Fiance got a promotion that had us move to a lower cost of living city. I found a really good job. Our parents offered to help. She’s cut her budget, I upped mine, and now I’m scared to tell her who I booked because it alwas seems to be the vendors she wanted that where just out of reach. So sometimes, things flip.
Your Darling Husband has his own business. if he focuses on that and make it grow, he could make way more money than at a job, and he’s the mast of his own destiny. Feast and famine is the price you pay for that, as well as the early sacrafice. Keep working hard and making the best choices for you, and then before you know it they’ll be jealous of you. Where you could ruin all that is if you try and keep up with the Jones.