(Closed) When???

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
222 posts
Helper bee

I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time waiting, I know it SUCKS. Honestly the fact that he DOES want it, has been thinking about it, and has been talking about it in a positive way is amazingly great. Some of us would kill for that *cough, me, cough* so consider yourself lucky =)

My advise would be this: as one poster so perfectly put it – the proposal is to the man as the wedding is to the woman. I know I’ve re-used it in another post, but it truly is perfect: take a deep breath and let him do this. It’s a big deal to a guy, men often feel that how they propose will be judged by EVERYONE (and in a sense they are right). He knows you’re going to tell everyone how he did it and that he’ll be telling all his friends and family too. He just wants it to be AMAZING. So even though it’s not a big deal to you (isn’t to me either honestly), it’s a big deal to him.

My advice would be to concentrate on something else and maybe stay off the “waiting” board for a couple weeks (I know that’s hard, this place is like crack, lol). Just know that it IS coming and that he wants it to be a truly special moment.

Post # 5
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@SunriseMidwest: Ditto a THOUSAND times over.

This is for him as much as it is for you. He wants those slaps on the back and “Well done mate!” from his friends, he wants those awwwws and “how sweet!” and “she’s so lucky to have you” comments from women. It’s a story that will be passed between friends “did you know such-and-such is engaged?” “No! How did he do it?!” that and “Can I see the ring?!” and the No. 1 questions asked by people. And it will be a story that will be told to your children, he wants to impress them too.

The fact that he is thinking about it and wants it to be so special is wonderful! Don’t stress about it, don’t let impatience ruin the moment. Just let the anticipation build, this is the exciting part!

It’s his moment just as much, if not more than yours – let him have it. 🙂


Post # 6
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My SO is saying exactly the same things about “wanting to make it perfect” and “out of this world crazy special” which to him probably sounds really sweet but I’ve been waiting so long I’m just hearing it as “I want to do it in a way which is going to make you have to wait even looooonnngggeeerrr”!!

I totally get where you’re coming from, it is so frustrating, but I think the PP’s have it right, we just need to chill out (as much as possible) and keep telling ourselves that he DOES want to do it, he just wants to do it HIS way. :-]

Post # 8
3142 posts
Sugar bee

He could easily being doing business with his Aunt via emails and Fedex.  You’d be none the wiser!

Post # 10
3142 posts
Sugar bee


Sounds like he is on the verge of popping the question if you ask me.

Wonder if you feign disinterest in the subject if it would move things forward at a faster pace?

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