Post # 1
Trying to figure out what’s normal. In my family, they fully understand that we may not tell them anything for 3 months.
For his family, they will be *shocked.*BIL and SIL announced right away, and I think that was expected.
Now we’re trying to decide how long to keep it a secret (because if we wait to make a deal on this until we get the news, I can guarantee he’ll just tell everyone!)
I’m leaving the poll options open so you can vote on multiple in case you had multiple pregnancies and announced them at a different number of weeks.
Post # 3
I plan on telling only like my mom and my best friend as soon as I find out. If something goes wrong with the pregnancy, I want there to already be a support system in place of people who were already in the know.
I don’t think I’ll be able to hold off on making the big announcement longer than maybe 3 months or so, though.
I love how I’m talking about this as though it’s relevant to my near future. We don’t plan on TTC for like another 2 years, lol.
Post # 4
Not pregnant yet, but my mom will know the minute it happens as I have to undergo infertility treatments and she is aware of them to the detail. DH’s family is roughly aware but I will not allow them to know dates as I don’t want to me gawked at and guesses made. If I ever get pregnant I would share to them and everyone else at 15-20 weeks.
Post # 5
From an outsider’s perspective, I would definitely tell your immediate family very soon. My sister only told my mom and swore her to secrecy (which was impossible–mom told dad and me as soon as she got off the phone). So now we know, but we can’t share the joy with her because we’re too busy pretending like we don’t have a clue :/. She plans on not announcing it until she’s three months along, which is pretty ridiculous because she’s practically a size zero and you can already tell her chest is larger and it hasn’t been long at all. Sigh.
Post # 6
We told our parents, grandparents (esp since their up in age), siblings, and I told my 2 very closest friends upon finding out.
We haven’t told anyone else yet and we haven’t decided quite when we will. We’re very involved in our Church so once it’s out it’s out. lol Not sure how long I’ll be able to get away with hiding it though… this isn’t my first and I can already feel like I may show much earlier than the last time….Ultimately I’d like to tell before people start specualting and/or taking bets. lol
Post # 7
Not pregnant or planning to be anytime soon, but I’ve already told Darling Husband I want to wait to tell anyone until it’s completely impossible to deny that I’m housing a miniature version of us, and he understands. I don’t like unsolicited advice, and I hate how family and strangers alike seem to think no topic, no matter how personal or Too Much Information. is off-limits the second you’re knocked up. The longer we can stay under the radar, the better!
Post # 8
I told my boss at 9 weeks, everyone else a month or so later.
Post # 9
I had to tell my work as soon as I found out with my yougest, I was giving chemotherapy on a daily basis and it is against policy to do so when pregnant. We didn’t telll anyone else until 12 weeks or so. I had complications at 6 weeks on and was having ultrasounds every two weeks so we didn’t say anything until we were in the clear.
Post # 10
Hmm, this is an interesting one. I’m not pregnant yet, nor do I plan to be for another several months at least, but I have thought about this. I know I wouldn’t make an announcement to everyone until at least 12 weeks (possibly even wait until the 20 week scan) but I know I couldn’t wait that long to tell my immediate family and best friend. My sister would probably be the first person we’d tell, but I’d probably wait until 12 weeks to tell my mom…I think? I know she wants to be a grandparent so badly, I’d want to make sure everything was ok before getting her hopes up! Then again, I’m the worst secret keeper on the planet, so who knows?? I’ll be interested to read other people’s responses!
Post # 11
@jo.lee:LOL. My chest shrunk when I went off BC, and I think BC mimicks pregnancy hormones, so I think I’ll be ok on that front.
As close as I am with my mom, (and he with his mom) we won’t tell them until we’re ready to tell everyone. They won’t be able to keep this one in!
Post # 12
We told family and some friends when found out about 12 weeks or so along. But this is also when we found out ourselves!
Post # 13
I have a big mouth, I’d tell most people asap…Another thing is that I would be SO devastated, as everyone would, with a m/c, that I don’t think it could hurt any worse if people knew I was pg and then not pg. It would all suck. So i’d rather have that thrill and deal with the devastation later…
Post # 14
when/if I get pregnant, the first thing I am doing is marching on over to the bee to tell everyone.
Darling Husband wants to wait to tell our family untill we are in the second trimester. He thinks they will blab it on FB or whatever.
I would like to tell them right away in the event something happens, I would like to have their support.
Post # 15
I was not given the option of telling people. My pregnancy was a bit “scandalous” in my small town so word of it got out FAST. My own mother found out from the parent of a former classmate.
Post # 16
@ellabee: Haha, good call! Telling everyone at once is a great idea so no one is left out of the good news!