Post # 1
Soooo my ring is hiding in my SO’s backpack and I’m pretty sure the proposal is coming in the next week or so (yay!). My question is… how did you spread the good news?
I would like for our parents to be the first to know… We live very close to my SO’s parents, but we live 4 hours away from my parents right now. Do I call and tell my parents over the phone? It just seems like such a big thing to tell them over the phone! I mean, we are going to visit them soon, should I wait a few weeks and tell them in person? But then, I feel bad that his family knows and mine won’t know until we see them again.
FYI — even if he doesn’t propose in the next few weeks, this is still going to be something I’m thinking about because we only see my parents once a month, and we see his parents like 2 or 3 times a week!
I know I’m not the only one! How did other people deal with this?
Post # 3
If i were you my parents would be the first people i call! Even though your not able to see them like you said, its a big deal and id want them to be the first to know 🙂 We called our closest friends after and then everyone else found out by facebook mostly.
Post # 4
Is he asking your parents for permission first? If he did, your parents might get upset if you DON’T call them right away because they’re probably wicked excited but can’t let it show right now.
Post # 5
I would definitely call your parents as soon as you know. My sister had the idea of telling my parents after she got home in a week (She got engaged in the US, we’re from Canada) and my parents ended up finding out through Facebook… which they didn’t like very much lol. imo parents should be first to know, no matter the circumstances.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu
i called my parents right away! then his parents, and then i texted a bunch of other close fam/friends with a picture of my ringed hand and mr. sew’s hand was doing a thumbs up on the side. 🙂 all on the same night, since i was so excited!
i think it might be good to call your parents first..that way when you see them next they’ll all be ready and waiting to celebrate with you!
Post # 7
@MapleMoose: He asked them for permission waaaaay back in JUNE! (haha, he is a slow poke). AND he told them that the ring came in on Sunday. Soo yea, I’m sure they’re just as impatient as I am!! 🙂
@DeathByDesign: UGH I am so nervous that my friends will find out about it on Facebook before I have a chance to tell them myself! I am telling everyone I know not to say a word about it on FB and I am seriously going to delete anything people post on my wall about it!
Looks like a phone call is the way to go!!! Maybe I will tell them to Skype or something so I can see their reactions and show them the ring hahaha!
Post # 8
My family does not live within 350 miles of each other. So everything had to be done either by phone or email. I called my sister and Mom right away. They both live in the U.S. 🙂 Then sent an email to family members living outside the U.S. For friends, I changed my relationship status on Facebook. Really close friends got phone calls too!
Post # 9
@TinyTina: OoOOo! You totally should Skype it!!
Post # 10
I’d say tell parents first, rest of family second, then closest friends followed by everyone else. If not in person (or Skype/OoVoo), then phone. Text (with picture) for friends would be fine. 🙂
lol, my Fiance didn’t ask for permission (I would’ve blown up at him if he had since I don’t believe in that sort of thing) and I kept it hidden from my parents for YEARS before letting them know! LOL! (It came out after I got pregnant, though she suspected before…). It’s a long story, short version is my mom didn’t like him.
I wear the ring, tell people who he is, and that’s it. We figured we’d wait closer to our wedding to put pictures in the paper and everything. My FB status is “engaged” and so is my MySpace site (doesn’t stop people from hitting on me, though).
Post # 11
I called the important ones (parents, who already knew, his parents, siblings, my best friends) since it was christmas we saw a lot of people, so I just let them find the ring, the reaction is priceless when they ‘discover it’
Post # 12
We live across the country from both our families, so we decided to get engaged right around our two-week trip home for the holidays. Unfortunately, my parents decided they would be spending the first few days of that trip in Florida so we couldn’t tell them in person before his family.
What we ended up doing was calling my parents a week or two before we went home and asking/telling them (he considered it calling to ask my Dad’s permission, which made both me and my Dad laugh at him, but was cute). We told a few people out in California in person before we left, but told members of his family as we saw them and then started texting our friends. Eventually we put it on facebook to tell people we weren’t as close to.
ETA – oh, I totally forgot the most ridiculous part. so, we didn’t want a proposal or anything so there was no particularly moment at which we got engaged. somewhere along the telling people it went from “we are getting engaged” to “aha, we are.”
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
His family was there when he proposed (it was Christmas) so they all knew. I called my mom and texted my sister, and then posted an update on Facebook. Tacky, maybe, but I don’t care. I was excited and it was the quickest way to share the news with everyone.
Post # 14
My parents were overseas at the time, but he’d already asked their permissions and given them the heads up that he was going to do it that weekend they were on holiday, so we sent them text messages 😀 Same for his parents and both my best friends. For everyone else, we just changed our relationship statuses on Facebook and let social networking do the work for us… Yeah, we’re lazy like that 😉
Post # 15
Thanks everyone!!! It happened Friday night and I spent most of the day calling everyone I knew! Sadly, my parents weren’t home so I couldn’t skype to get their reaction, but I am so happy that I called them.
I haven’t had the guts to change my FB status yet because there are still a handful of people that I think I want to tell in person/on the phone before I announce it to the FB world. (at least on the bee I’m pretty anon right now haha)
Man I’m starting to realize how old fashioned I am! I’m surrounded by all this technology and I still feel like I want to tell everyone in person!
Post # 16
We called/texted everyone! Congratulations 🙂