Post # 1
I was wondering where and with who you are spending Christmas this year- And what’s your family situation? If you’re not spending it with your parents, do you feel guilty about it?
Myself, I’m still not sure. My family lives 11(!) flight hours from where I live with my husband, and I’ve always been home for Christmas, even living that far away. This year, I’m thinking to celebrate Christmas with my husband (got married this year) and his family, but my family makes me feel guilty about it. I visit them 2-3 times a year (including always Xmas), but this year I’d prefer to spend it with my husband and visit them in January instead. Also, flight prices are pretty high around Xmas. My mom doesn’t seem thrilled about it and says a kid belongs to their parents for Xmas.
Post # 2
We alternate between both our families each year for Christmas. This year it’s my family’s turn, however I’ll only be able to do this if I get a new job which gives time off at Christmas, as my family live interstate. (At the moment I work in retail and they’ve put a “blackout” on any holiday requests from early December to mid January.)
It’s hard, but I think it’s time to start making your own ‘family’ holiday plans. Are you an only child? Is this why your mum would be getting so upset? We always make sure to call whichever family we aren’t spending Christmas with during the day to chat, so it doesn’t seem as though they are “forgotten” about. Perhaps that’s why you’re mum is getting upset?
Post # 3
With my in laws every year since Darling Husband and I started dating 6 years ago. We live near my parents and can see them any time throughout the year and a 4 hour flight from his. Since we get Xmas to New years off from work, we use that time to go visit them.
Post # 4
kraykitty: I have a brother who’s with them for Xmas every year, but my mom wants the whole family together. I mean I understand her on one side since we see DH’s family pretty often (they only live an hour flight from here, so we see them every or every second month), but on the other side, I seriously visit them 2-3 times a year and always stay for a week each time.
Post # 5
We always make the 5+ hour drive to spend Christmas with my family, but it helps that Darling Husband is Jewish, and it’s not important to them for us to spend Hanukkah with them. Thanksgivin, Passover, and the annual family beach trip are much bigger priorities. Thanksgiving we tend to alternate between my family, Brother-In-Law, SIL, and niece also driving distance, and his parents and other Brother-In-Law & SIL & niece on the other side of the country.
Darling Husband would love if eventually we could get some family to come to us for holidays instead, but hosting a feast sounds so stressful to me!
Post # 6
dalia88: Normally with FI’s family on christmas day, and my famlies on boxing day.
We moved to australia 18 months ago (23hour flight home!!) Its peak summer here over christmas (plus flight prices rocket) and last year was our 1st ever away from home (5 years together) It was such a novelty – We went to the beach facetimed friends and family, and then had a tradtional english christmas dinner, drinks and games with our expat friends.
This year we are going to the Great Barrier Reef a week before christmas, and then will be spending Christmas Day and New Years in Bali! It’s certianly different,
I miss christmas at home!
Post # 7
Darling Husband and I as a unit have never spent Christmas with our families because they live far from us and because in the past I’ve had to work that day. This year we are going to Grand Canyon for Christmas. We are both used to being far from our parents, and we just saw them earlier this year, so it’s not a big deal to us. We’ll talk on the phone for sure.
Post # 8
We usually spend Christmas Eve with my husband’s family, and Christmas Day with mine. Some years it’s flipped, depending on everyone’s schedule. They both live about an hour and a half away from us in separate directions.
Post # 9
Last year I spent it working, both Christmas Eve and Christmas day. This year, I work Christmas Eve and have Christmas day off. I’ll chill at home with the hubs and try to make it to my parent’s house in the evening. Sometimes when you’re a nurse, you have to force yourself to be a little less sentimental about your own life 🙁
Post # 10
I feel kinda bad as both our parents live in the same city, but we are staying in the city this year and my parents are coming. Darling Husband has wanted to stay here for Christmas for so long though, so I feel less guilty.
Plans will be firmed up later, but I think it’s Christmas Eve here, Christmas Day at my sister’s.
In the past it’s been Christmas Eve with my family, Christmas Day with his and then a small Ukranian Christmas celebration just us as he often works, I’m in school. I was annoyed one year I actually had to present something that evening.
Post # 11
- Wedding: December 2014 - Catal Restaurant
We usually spend Christmas Eve with his family (a lot of hispanic families celebrate on the 24th) and we spend Christmas day with my fam.
Post # 12
We stay home, just the two of us. My family lives in another state and his parents live about a 4 hour drive away. We go up the day after xmas to visit his family, and we spend Thanksgiving with my family.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
We don’t live near family now, so it will be Darling Husband, DS, Dear Daughter, our doggie, and me. We’re traveling on new year’s day to visit family.
Post # 14
Ah, I remember the first holiday I told my parents I wasn’t coming home – my mom tried to bribe me with paying for our flights and still does on occasion. Flights during Christmas are the worst though – I don’t blame you for not wanting to make the trek. Fortunately for us, our families live in the same city. It took us a while to figure things out but we pretty well have things set now – well until we have a child of our own anyways. We spend the night Christmas Eve at my SIL’s house so we can wake up with our nieces and spend the first half the morning with them and the later half of the morning with mine. Afternoon is a toss up, then we alternate dinners. We try to keep things even and everyone understands.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
We alternate Christmases with his family and with my family – we’re a 3 hour flight from my family, unfortunately – ticket prices double at Christmas. Being in Australia we don’t have to worry about Thanksgiving! The years we go to my family usually is the entirety of my mother’s family (dad’s family is spread out), so about 30 people, for Christmas Day lunch; years it’s his family we spend Christmas Eve with his dad’s family and Christmas Day with his mother’s family.