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- Wedding: October 2010
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Zhabeego: I think thats the thing that bothers me most about a lot of parents.. They act like getting pregnant and giving birth is such a big accomplishment in life and that they’re somehow enlightened for doing so. As you said, the lowest of species can get pregnant..
“Any stray cat cat or cockroach can get pregnant. Its not an accomplishment.”
Comments like these are just more examples of why we don’t need a CBC board here. People here are usually more than willing to support those who are CBC, but then some who are CBC aren’t supportive of those who want to have children. It’s very one sided. And for some, getting pregnant is extremely difficult or impossible, and it is an accomplishment.
Just as some people who have moissanite don’t “support” those who have diamonds and vice versa. Having a thread on CBCers isn’t hurting anybody, I don’t understand why some people are getting worked up about it being in the Parenting board.
KC-2722: It bothers you that parents value the experience of becoming parents? The experience of pregnancy and birth is quite amazing for many people who go through it. Just because it happens every day, does not mean it has no value to those who experience it.
I grew up the majority of my life not wanting children, EVER. So I totally understand a lot of the sentiments that CBC’ers express, however, I would never be as hateful towards those who *are* parents as some people express themselves to be on the bee. I would never judge a CBC’er in the same manner. I don’t see how it gains any understanding or compassion for either side of the spectrum.
so here we r on a thread dedicated to CBCers arguing about the experience of getting pregnant and childbirth, awesome.
We are CBC, children and giving birth are just not for me or my Fiance, but I have absolutely no problem with people who want to get pregnant and give birth. My mom had five including me and is an extremely devoted mom who I really admire. I think being pregnant is a big deal because you give 9 months of your life over to another being and on top of that you have 18+ years of raising and nurturing them. To me, being a mother as well as being a father is an extremly important job, it’s just not one I want personally.
I never see cbc’ers over on the baby/ttc boards criticizing their choices. I think there should be a separate board as well. Sanctimommies just can’t resist giving their two cents. And this is coming from someone ttc!
Zhabeego: sorry double post here, but your comment to me sounds kind of mean spirited. I would imagine many women dream of getting pregnant and having children exactly how every hear dreams of their wedding and having their perfect day. Yes, any woman can get married but everyone dreams that of their perfect wedding, so even though it is an everyday occurance for each women it is very special and Unique. I don’t personally want to get pregnant as I stated above but for some people this is a dream they have held since they were little girls and I don’t think anyone should disrespect that just like no one says ” stop posting on wedding bee, getting married is nothing special…anyone can do it…”
sorry this his comment was for Maggie, I replied to the wrong person!!!
We are childfree and it’s perfect for us!
I never wanted kiddos and the husband was indifferent so we made the decision not to have any. We are both 30 and this is the interesting time in our life because almost every one of our friends has a child, so those wild nights out with friends are few and far between.
So what do we do when we have spare time outside of work, house work, etc? We relax and enjoy lots of time with each other. Every weekend we are either relaxing in the pool, going away for the weekend, or going to some sort of event or activity. Relaxation mixed with being on the go is what makes us extremely happy and we feel very complete.
And just for fun: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4AhGvR0143s Sidenote: this video is not meant to imply anything towards those who have kids, it is meant to be a humurous exaggeration.
urchin: No, that’s not what I said. Its the sanctimonious attitudes that often come along with giving birth I take issue with. While you may not judge people who are CBC, there are plenty of women with children or trying to have children who do and their self righteous attitudes are annoying.
I have plenty of compassion and understanding for people who have children, I don’t understand people who have children and act like they’re better than those who don’t, and think that they couldn’t possible deserve a place to discuss issues that pertain to them and their life choices.
we are childfree. I think I knew I wasn’t interested in having children when I was 13ish. But when I was dating and falling in love with my fiance I used to imagine having our baby and being a family. I do like kids…sometimes. As long as they’re not screaming annoyingly or throwing dirt clumps at my car lol.
For a while I felt bad because, taking evolution and biology into account, the sole purpose of every being on the planet is to survive to reproduce. Passing on my genes is my purpose. Lol. But I’m lucky enough to have been born a human and i can make my own decisions. Eff science!!!( I’m sorry science,I dont mean it! Lol)
But raising kids is really 50/50. You might end up with a perfect little angel or you could end up with problem child! Lol There are too many outside influences and this world is going to shit. Besides the fact that unfortunately,not all children are born healthy,no thank you. That’s all very risky to me and I don’t gamble.
I definitely feel like a CFBC board would be beneficial to us so we are not judged. I think there are extremes to how strongly some people feel about the status,but that’s in all aspects of life. But i feel like a place to vent would be nice. I think we get the wrap for being cold, heartless, evil people and its nice to see people who understand.
CBC here! i dont want to put my body through all that. I love my freetime, i have 2 cats and a dog, that’s hard enough! 😛
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