(Closed) Where are the grown-ups?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

yes! i think you’re talking about my mom!! maybe you and i are sisters? lol

my mom is trying to tell me who i’ve got to invite and who i shouldn’t..how i should have my wedding, where we should have it, why we shouldn’t have it at a certain place, making comments like “omg that’s so expensive! excuse me.”, “you can have it at a pavilion” “why would you spend money on THAT?!” YET she neverrrrrr shares in my excitement over the wedding she like hardly talks about it with me and when I bring it up to her she couldn’t sound any less interested. It really upsets me because this is supposed to be an exciting thing and it means a lot to me. I see my other friends families acting soo involved and so happy for the soon to be’s and mine is the opposite. I’m finally getting to the point where I don’t even care anymore. Like you, my parents are also chipping in, they’re giving a specific amount of money. Anyway good luck to you!!! I hope she gets her act together for you!

Post # 4
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

What a mess. “Make it not like a wedding”? What? She’s acting like such a child that I think you should hold on to your dignity and ignore her, talk to your dad about wedding stuff that needs to be coordinated with parents, and wait for her to come to her senses.  At least if you don’t sink to her level you can have some good memories of the wedding planning. 

Post # 6
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3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

1. Story. of. my. life.

2. Glad you were the “bigger person” but how aggravating that they’d invited those people anyway. I am sure you are right that most people will understand whose day it really is!

Post # 7
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wow is all I have to say about their behavior.  I like the idea of almost two separate parties (sit in the corner! lol).  If I were in your shoes I wouldn’t include my parents in stuff during the day itself, like helping me get dressed, and if they complained, say “you made your priorities clear and they’re not me so I got better support” (but I’m passive-aggressive like that).  Thank goodness you have other great people around you, keep your focus on them. Good luck!

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