(Closed) Where are the other "older" brides?

posted 6 years ago in 40 Something
Post # 77
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Well, age wise, I am topping everyone.  Second marriage and I’m 63 years old.  Gosh thats hard to say!   But not hard to be because I love my life.   I do wish there was a place on here for older “brides” for ideas and sharing thoughts.   We are (after ten years) going to have a small (50 or so) wedding, reception, which I hope to make a classy, fun event!

Post # 78
824 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Never mind ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 79
244 posts
Helper bee

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Prettysmile40:  Congrats on your upcoming nuptuals – how exciting!!!!  I am 40, my boyfriend bought my engagement ring and I’m waiting for him to propose.  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

I already know what I want in a wedding though after being able to think about this a lot! This will be both of our first-time marriage by the way, which I think is awesome!  We both were able to do tons of dating before and really figure out what would work for us in a partner.

I really just want to include closest family and friends for our wedding.  I don’t understand inviting tons of people that I don’t even talk to very often.  So I want to keep the guest list under 75 people, but I want to have amazing food and drink and music!  I care a lot more about food than I do decor – so the decor will be as simple as I can do without looking too bare-bones.

One of my closest friend’s mothers designs jewelry – so I want to see if she might be able to make a crystal bouquet for me. 

Post # 80
7 posts

I’m 47 and my fiance is 50.  I divorced 4 years ago after an 18 year marriage.  The wedding was the most beautiful and romantic part of our marriage.  The flowing dress, tux, flowers galore, music, reception was nothing but a big party that left me depressed when the reality of marriage set in (he was very abusive after the wedding).  

This time around, I tried on dress after dress after dress.  In my 40s, my body just isn’t what it was 20 years ago when I weighed 120 pounds and could slip into anything flattering.  In the end, I completely bucked the system and expectations and said NO to the dress.  Every single one of them.  In the end, I was thrilled and relieved to opt for an adorable emroidered peasant shirt and very expensive but super wonderful jeans and very cute lace up distressed leather boots wtih silk laces.  Fiance was super relieved also..he hates formal anything.

We are getting married in Yosemite after a short hike so a dress just seemed unrealistic anyway.  Am I happy with my choice?  As different and perhaps mortifying to some as it is, I am thrilled and can’t wait to stand beneath the pines and redwoods in comfort, with more money in my pocket and without a dress I will wear for an hour and struggle to find room to store or sell for half the price.

There you have it…

Post # 81
8 posts
  • Wedding: October 2017

This is an encore wedding for both my Fiance and I.  We both were both in not so great marriages and are anxious to have a wonderful wedding.  We are having both the ceremony and reception at a country club in our area.  We will probably have about 75-100 people in attendance, including our 7 kids!  I will be 42 when we get married and my Fiance will be 48.  As our wedding is not until Oct of 2017, we still have a lot of details to work out but definitely want to have a nice wedding.

Post # 82
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: Waterbury,CT

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bellabella21 :  I just turned 50 this past November,and I’m also a first-time bride.I met the love of my life in 2016,we got engaged three months after we met(When you know it’s the right person, you just know!).and we’re getting married this year.He’s 53, and was divorced for 20 years.He said I’m the only woman that ever made him decide to get remarried.I love my future hubby to the moon and back,and feels the same way about me!

Post # 83
486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Southampton, UK

I’m 49 and my Fiance is 54. It’s his first marriage, my second (I’ve been divorced for 20 years).We’re having a non-religious wedding and reception at an old Edwardian manor next year, with a big dress, cake, dancing – the works. We’re aiming for around 60 guests.

Post # 84
373 posts
Helper bee

Well, about to turn 40 in a few days so definitely qualify as ‘older’. Haven’t picked out a dress yet but will probably go with something ultra sexy. I am not modest at all.

Post # 85
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We are both 53, we got married last October.  My second, his first.  Low key wedding as he is a low key guy!!  I was willing to do to what he wanted (within reason) as he had never done this before.  We were married at 11 at an Arboretum, lunch afterwards for 50 people (44 total were in attendence) no dancing but great food and drink.  My two sons were my attendents, he had his cousin as his best man.   I rocked the heck out of my white dress!!!!  (It was semi formal – I love it!!!)

I would do it all again!!!

Post # 86
2359 posts
Buzzing bee

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Prettysmile40 :  I got married last year at 41. Neither had been married before.

We had around 75 people. I went for a vintage vibe.

My bridal party consisted of someone I have known for 37 years and the other 28. That’s it. I told them do whatever style you want, as long as its navy blue, and wear whatever shoes you want. I don’t care.

We paid for 95% of it but didn’t go into debt, so yay us.

I wore a pale blue dress with a veil and a crystal and pearl headband. I wrote a pearl bracelet and pearl drop earrings. 

I will say that most of our guests were our age and since most have kids the party did end a little soon for my taste. But oh well. We had lovely weather during a summer that was prone to rain. 

Post # 87
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - the garden house, seattle

we got married last year, both over 40 (he’s 50 in july), my third marraige, his first (but the first wedding for both of us). we had a wedding with about 60 guests (all dear friends and found family) followed by a four-hour reception cocktail-party-style reception. we filled the space with couches, ottomans, and cocktail tables with some chairs scattered around and served amazing apps (we splurged on the caterer), beer, cider, and champagne. there was a cake – we nearly knocked hte top layer right off while trying to cut it – but no dancing. i wore a gorgeous strapless a-line and silver shoes because i wanted to, and since everyone attending loved us i knew no one would be judgy. it was everything we wanted it to be, the best night of either of our lives. you know your friends and you know what you want – make your wedding belong to you and ignore anyone who tries to tell you there are rules abotu weddings for older women.

Post # 88
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Philadelphia, PA

I am marrying a man who is ten years younger than me. In the beginning I was hesitant but I realized he was way more mature than my ex-husband who is older than me. I am also having the wedding I always dreamed of…ballgown, fancy venue, huge bridal party. I can’t wait! Good for you ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 89
231 posts
Helper bee

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NavyBee :  I will from now on….call my second wedding…my encore wedding. Sounds so much better….fancy even. hehe 

I am not engaged (yet) but I will likely be 40 when I marry. We have talked about it and while we have already been friends for 21 years and dating for a year now….we are taking things semi slow for a few reasons but the biggest being my kiddo who is 6. She has a lot going on with the recent separation and ADHD diagnosis and bullies at school…. 

I am almost 37 now (May!) and yeah, I would love to be engaged at 38 and married at 40 ^_^ 

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