(Closed) Where are the straps?

posted 11 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
5839 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I had no issues finding non-strapless dresses (I looked in NYC and Tampa/Clearwater). I just don’t wear strapless anything in real life.

Post # 18
2857 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I didn’t want a strapless gown AT ALL but I realized that they are what looks best with my body. Sigh.

Post # 19
1254 posts
Bumble bee

When I started my dress search I had a particular style in mind but was open to all and any suggestions. As such I have tried on everything (except long-sleeves). I tried on strapless (sweetheart and straight-across), cap sleeves, spaghetti straps, v-neck, high-neck, halter, backless, etc. I also tried on every silhouette (mermaid, sheath, A-line, ballgown, empire, dropped waist, etc.) and every material (lace, taffeta, silk, organza, tulle, faile, net, brocade, etc.). None of them looked bad bad, just that few looked better. I ended up with a strapless sweetheart lace gown with a slim A-line cut that I may convert to a mermaid.

I think strapless dresses are the reason A-lines are popular, it complements the body on many so it has stuck around for so long. I also think it is a matter of personal preference. The same way stiletto’s and high heels have lasted for so long. It can be uncomfortable but it makes girls legs look longer and gives them confidence in every step. I wouldn’t knock the style just because it is popular. I am sorry that you are having trouble finding a dress in your style. I hope it gets better.

Post # 20
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I do not agree that strapless gowns are universally flattering.  I think they are quite unflattering on some people. I hate where the skin squishes right above your underarms—happens even to some of the skinniest girls.  They do look great on some though too. I guess it’s all about what fits best for your body.

I definitely felt more “bridal” in the strapless gowns I tried on, but being short waisted and short all over, I also went with a one shoulder like @alligatress.  I felt the strap gave me more length/height.

Post # 21
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

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@shaydenise: I wouldn’t say that I dislike strapless dresses because it’s popular at all. I personally don’t like them mainly because I am a very modest person and feel totally naked with strapless… I’m the kind of person who wears pants even though it’s 95 degrees outside or would wear a shirt going out, look down and feel like I’m showing too much cleavage because my top is v-neck and would end up wearing a jacket the rest of the day to cover up. The second biggest reason why I don’t like them is just because personally I don’t think they are very flattering (and on me for sure) because I feel that with strapless dresses theres nothing on the top part of your toros to break up negative space… all that bareness just doesn’t look that flattering to me, kind of like it widens people out up there… as opposed to halter straps, which for some people (though not all) can make their shoulders look narrower, or slightly ruffled cap sleeves which could help frame a face sweetly… It’s a personal choice of not liking the look for the look of it rather than because it’s popular. I totally love the colored shoes thing and I love birdcage veils and I know those are some of the biggest trends at the moment and are very popular things to wear. 🙂 I think most of us that don’t like strapless are just frustrated that when we go into a bridal store 90% of the dresses are strapless which leaves us the only 10% of our options unless we end up going strapless. I know there are strapless dresses out there, but for me personally, they were very hard to find in the stores.

Post # 22
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I originally really wanted a dress with straps so that I could wear a regular bra and be more comfortable (I hate strapless bras).  However, it was impossible to find a dress with NICE straps that would actually hide a bra.  I don’t like the look of cap sleeves, spaghetti straps, halter, T-shirt style sleeves.  The only straps I actually like are on a V-neck dresses.  But when I tried these type of dresses on, they ended up making my shoulders look really wide.  Strapless dresses were by far the most flattering on my body.  I also ended up getting a longline strapless bra, which is way more comfortable and provides more support than a regular strapless bra.

I think strapless dresses do look great on a lot of girls, but some look better in a dress with straps.  I think strapless doesn’t look too good on top-heavy girls, because they need a bra with straps for more support.  I also don’t find strapless dresses flattering on super skinny girls because it makes them look extra boney. 


Post # 23
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I really wanted a dress with cap sleeves.  I went to the bridal salon and told them what I wanted.  They looked at me kind of oddly and told me they had *nothing* with sleeves because no one wanted them.  In the whole store they had *one* dress with straps.  That was what I ended up getting.  I love it, but it is kind of frustrating to have *so* little selection.  I can’t understand why they don’t carry more dresses with straps and sleeve because I hear a lot on the interwebs from other women who really wanted straps or sleeves, many of who ended up buying strapless because they couldn’t find what they wanted.  It ends up being self-reinforcing.  There is very little selection with straps or sleeves so most brides wear strapless dresses and the industry says there is no demand for anything else.  Its a pity.

Post # 24
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

One of the bridal salon managers said the reason that there is so much strapless is because it is much easier to manufacture and alter.  We all know dresses and alterations haven’t gotten any cheaper, so it is simply more profitable for this industry and therefore will never go away.

I really didn’t want strapless because I am tired of it too.  However, my only other options were halter or spaghetti and I wasn’t a fan.  I also could have added a cap sleeve at MY expense, but it always looked like a strapless dress with a sleeve tacked on.  Luckily, I do look good in it so I just sucked it up!

Post # 25
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I totally feel you.  I think many of the strapless dresses out there are just so cliche wedding-y, and not unique!  I bought a dress with straps, and if anyone out there is looking for a dress with straps but doesn’t want something super glitzy or poofy, I wholeheartedly recommend J. Crew!  Simple and elegant without being boring; plus, many of their dresses are a steal compared to the high-end salons.

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