(Closed) Where are/were you at 25?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
940 posts
Busy bee

Haha i’m 25 this year, and yeah, I definitely feel im ‘ahead’ in certain arenas of my life, but ‘behind’ in what others think a 25 yo should be at. I’m happy with where I am at.

Most my friends are either engaged/married, or with kids. All that seems like it will happen for me beginning next year. Im in no rush or competition. and YES I sometimes look at a 6 year old and think ‘what a life’…heck, i look at my pups and get jealous. ‘eat, play, poop!’

Post # 3
4008 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I just turned 31 a few weeks ago. When I was 25 I was in my 3rd year of teaching..still trying to feel like an actual teacher and not a fraud. I also got engaged at 25 (though it was closer to 26). Adulting is mostly just faking it til you make it.

Post # 4
195 posts
Blushing bee

When I was 25 I was married (still am) and we were still living in the house we are now. I was working for a periodontist and we were traveling. 25 was a good year! The next year I had my son so I’m glad we did what we did during that time. 

Post # 5
2658 posts
Sugar bee

At 25 I had 2 degrees, but was barely employed and was clinically depressed. I lost 10 people close to me within the span of 3 years and nearly lost my sister/bff to cancer. I had no idea what I was doing or what I wanted to do and was totally miserable. I was also single and dated some truly awful duds around then. 

Now I’m 33, married, gainfully employed and totally in love with my life.

Life has all kinds of ups and downs, it’s not a straight line of progress forward and upward. 

Post # 6
10542 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I got engaged on my 25th birthday. I had my bachelors/masters. I was working at my first adjunct instructor job. My fiancé moved in with me that year. It was a pretty fun time in my life. Not a lot of adult responsibility beyond paying my bills. I did a lot of camping and fun trips with friends/my husband (then fiancé). 

Post # 7
1286 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

I’m 25, soon to be 26. I’m currently living in my hometown. I got engaged right before 25, and changed my job, started to get my masters degree all this year. 1 week after my 26th birthday in June I’ll be getting married!

25 has been spent with loads of hard work in literally every part of my life and it felt bloody long to me! I’m excited and nervous for the new age.

Post # 8
2859 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

When I was 25, I was dating my ex-boyfriend still. We had an on again off again relationship. I wasn’t happy in the relationship, but wasn’t ready to leave. I shared a house with 3 roommates, working a part time job, and getting my 2nd bachelor’s degree. A year later I broke it off with my ex- and met my now husband. That was 22 years ago and it seems like another lifetime. 

Post # 9
3083 posts
Sugar bee

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downonmulberry :  Girl I am 28 (almost 29) and don’t feel like an adult. 

I have a husband, a mortgage, a 9-5 job, car payments – how much more adult can i get other than having kids? LOL but i still dont feel like one. 

I am not sure anyone ever does? 

At 25, I was working in the same office as a receptionist and got into my current position towards the end of the year. Living with my boyfriend (who became fiance later that year) in a small one bedroom guest house. We did quite a lot of travelling and small weekend trips before we had to pay for a wedding and a house… ahh the good ol’ days 

Post # 10
915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I’m nearing 26, and am still in graduate school (PhD). Im in a bit of a liminal space since I’ve been in university for 8 straight years and only worked part time throughout, but I’m also married with a one year old and dealing with infertility and miscarriages. So I feel both very much like an adult and very much not. I’m actually very excited about officially entering my late 20s so I can feel less like a baby when I’m teaching college students. 

Post # 11
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I am 25 now, almost 26 this summer.


I have no degree (which I’m 100% insecure about, I wish I didn’t drop out although it’s pretty nice not having student loans). Despite not having a degree I’m financially way ahead of my friends who have degrees and jobs. I’ve flipped a few houses and bought my own almost a year ago (which we gutted and totally renovated with a 2,300 sq/ft addition). My husband and I are also working on opening a second part of his company which hopefully is successful. I sell real estate. 

I’ve been married for 19 months. Just had a baby last month. I feel pretty good about where I am (minus the degree thing, idk why I’m so insecure about it). 

Post # 12
9528 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I was nearing the end of law school and felt super smart (…which didn’t last long, once I started working I realized I actually knew absolutely nothing…). Things picked up quickly in the ~5 years since, though — got engaged, married, bought a house, had a baby.

Post # 13
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

I was in my third year of teaching (high school) and still looked like a student…ok maybe I still do haha!

I was living with my boyfriend-now-husband. We got our dog, aka the centre of our world. 

Overall pretty happy minus some family drama! 

3 years later we’re married, own a house, and will be TTC next month! 

Post # 14
2178 posts
Buzzing bee

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downonmulberry :  happy almost quarter-life crisis!!! 🎂 🎈 🎁 


at 25 (approximately 1 year and 4 months ago, to be precise), I had completed approximately nothing of substance in my life. I did not get engaged, married, still had no kids, and only had a bachelors degree. I took a very important jump in my career towards the end of that age.

at 26 (approximately 4 months ago, to be precise) I am still working in said career. still no house, not engaged, no kids, and not married. Wells Fargo has me by the balls, though, if that means anything (student loans).


TL;DR: I have no idea what I’m doing.

Post # 15
3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

When I turned 25 I had been married for a few months, had finished 2 university degrees and worked for 2 years before starting my 3rd degree the week of my birthday. To be honest I never expected to get married as young as 24 but sometimes life surprises you! 

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