(Closed) Where are/were you at 25?

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Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME

By 25 I had graduated college, moved away from my family and hometown, started my career, bought a house, and was with my Fiance hoping to be engaged soon.  I felt like I was on fast forward for a long time since I graduated at 21, but the past 2.5 years not much has changed!  I’ll be 28 in July, married and hopefully TTC soon.

25 was a weird birthday for me too! It seemed like crossing some sort of threshold from your care-free early 20’s to “adulthood”.   Just remember you’re still young and you’re allowed to have fun and you’re allowed to make mistakes.  Don’t let the pressure get to you!

Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

downonmulberry :  lived in a single bedroom house (rental) in Virginia. I was a school- based pediatric OT for my second year and still am 13 years later, elsewhere.  I did caving as a hobby with a great group of people. Out almost every weekend with that.  Met my husband online and got asked out by a fellow caver right as I was about to leave to actually meet him – glad that all planned out as it did, we were definitely not compatible. HUsband and I took an epic journey across the Southwest US as a first date. Bridesmaid in my best friend’s wedding, boyfriend (husband) met my family and hers all in one go! I guess it was a key year for me. 

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I am 25. Been married for almost 3 years. About to graduate with my Master’s. The biggest thing we’ve done is move across the country, which was a goal of ours for most of our relationship.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I graduated college 2 years late (at age 23) due to an extended medical leave, but by 25 I was feeling pretty caught up – I was nearly a year into my first professional, full-time job after graduation and soon to get a very large raise before turning 26. I was long-distance dating my boyfriend (now husband) and lived with a roommate and my cat, and I was (still am) paying board for my horse who lived nearby. I was pretty typically 25 in my social life, especially given where I lived at the time (large college town) – weekends were generally spent with friends going out to bars. But I was starting to get really into fitness and spent my daytime hours doing more wholesome activities too, haha. I was traveling CONSTANTLY between work and visiting my SO, but it was a lot easier to spend so much time on the road back then.

I’m 30 now, married and living with my husband and the same cat, plus our two dogs, in a much larger city with a much larger mortgage. (And the horse is still boarded nearby.) We have a good social network, are very active, into fitness, both recently promoted in our second professional jobs, where we’ve both been almost 5 years now. Sometimes I feel like an adult, and sometimes I definitely don’t. Maybe that will change if/when we have kids…

Post # 20
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9553 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

Looking back, 25 was a milestone year for me. I completed my MS, started my PhD program, bought a house with my SO (now D.H.) and got engaged. Whew. 

 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I think I was unemployed and living in an apartment with a few friends. My parents paid my bills. Either that or I had moved in with an ex which turned out to be a bit of a mess. My life was not particularly in good shape, but it was fun.

Post # 22
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562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017 - France

I lived in the Caribbean ran my own company and was generally happy now I’m 32 live in France, I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom and not really happy. I miss my home, I will literally move to any Caribbean Island even the French ones just to have a more bearable life. I hate the cold and too short summer.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

downonmulberry :  

When I was 25 I was in a job I hated (hospitality) earning shit money (even though I was a manager) and generally miserable. I had a bachelor’s degree, but where I lived, the whole industry is very public service based, and believe me when I say the whole industry is like high school. Cliquey. All about who you know. It was awful and so hard to break into.

I was with Fiance (brand new relationship of 6 months), but that was the only good thing I had going for me. I was living in a city I hated, broke, and just pretty down.

Now at 29, my boyfriend is my Fiance, I own my own house, back in my home city, have a wonderful career which pays amazing money, have the dog I always wanted (a golden retriever). Life couldn’t be better! A lot can change in 4 years (hell, a lot can change in 6 months).

To anyone who feels a bit like they aren’t where they should be at 25, lemme tell you I was one of you and it gets better if you work hard and have a litte faith (in yourself).

Post # 24
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Newbee

I’ll be 25 in June. I’ll be engaged soon – within the next month I believe. Me and my SO of 7 years graduated from 5+ years of uni with our second degrees in August 2019. We moved back home and are now in our first teaching jobs. We currently live with our parents to save the most amount of money we could for a house. But we lived together all through school, so are very much looking forward to moving back in together within the next little while. We also have a cat that we got while in uni that is the light of our lives. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

I was working in a good job for the Government. .. pregnant with baby #2 and preparing to take my 1 year maternity leave, had just bought my first brand new car. I miss those days!

Post # 26
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560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

When I was 25 I was living in a major city, going to school and partying my ass off with my friends. I had a boyfriend and a couple of major league ice hockey and football (the one with the ball and the feet) side dudes. I think right after I moved my partying ass to another party city (Vienna if I recall correctly) then to China. Marriage was a big hell no, and kids.. not wanting them 12 years later either. Now I am 37, people still mistake my for 25. I act young, feel young and obviously look young only that I am married now and carry a bunch of degrees. Life was fun. But life still is fun. Never felt the need to feel accomplished whatever that means. I always felt the need to feel happy and do fun stuff and see the world. 

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2020

Mmm. To help the less achieved of us: I’ll be turning 27 in 3 weeks. 2 years ago I graduated with an allied health degree, began working in my career feeling very much like an imposter, and lived with my mom. But just a year before that, right before turning 24, I’d been diagnosed with cancer and found out about my partner of 5 years long standing affair. I felt very behind, much as I do now, but overall I was in a better place at 25 than 24. 2 years on now and I’m still working in my same positions, have gotten raises, have taken on students of my own which made me realize how much I actually DO know lol I’ll be living alone in my own apartment for the first time next month. I had a very different plan for my life at 27 lol I didn’t think I’d be starting over but I’ve built a solid foundation for myself and that’s something no one can take from me. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Looking back, 25 was super weird. I’d finished grad school, and was working in a temporary (but well-paying) position. I lived alone, which was amazing. I had a ton of fun with my friends, but the uncertainty of my job caused a lot of angst. So did the fact that I didn’t really like where I was living. As much as I liked living alone, I missed my roommate and felt lonely a lot. I think that mid-twenties are hard, there’s a lot of “what am I doing with my life.” 

Life after 25 has improved a lot! At 26, I started dating my Fiance and got a tenure track job. At 27, I quit the job because I hated it, and took a huge paycut to take my current position, which has challenges but was ultimately a good move. I moved in with Fiance, we got engaged, and will be married shortly before I turn 30. I still feel like there’s a lot of work left to do. I need to figure out what I’m doing, career-wise, because this isn’t a long-term path for me. We need to decide if we’re staying put (we want to move, but family makes it hard), and buckle down re: saving for and buying a house. But overall…pretty excellent. 

I still feel 25 on the inside though…but, I’m more comfortable with the fact that I have no idea what I’m doing. I still have to google how to boil eggs. 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I met my husband when I was 25! I was in my final year of medical school. Now I’m 31, married, and working full time as an oncologist. Life certainly has changed. 25 was a great year; I hope yours is too 🙂

Post # 30
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Newbee

I call bullshit on 99.999% of these responses.

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