(Closed) Where are/were you at 25?

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Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Ha, 25 – what a year.

Let’s see I was doing my masters and was pretty miserable. I didn’t enjoy my program, felt only mildly connected to the friends I was making, and was having frequent anxiety attacks on not knowing what to do post-masters. I was drinking and partying a lot (and had just gotten back from a year interning abroad in which I partied very heavily).

7 years later and I’m happily married, have a very competitive job, own a house, have an awesome dog, and am pregnant. 

Honestly I don’t feel that my ‘wild child’ party-ing side of my 20s improved my life any. That being said, I loved that my 20’s were spent traveling, studying, and living around the world and love that now in my 30’s I’m more settled and family focused.

Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

At 25 I was engaged and living on my own in an apartment across the street from where I worked 🙂 I am currently 26 and still have the same job, still engaged, but no longer living on my own!!

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

25 – I had just moved to a new state with my then-boyfriend (now ex-husband). He was offered a great job opportunity, so we packed up our apartment and our cat and moved one state over. I’d never been so far away from my family, so that combined with not having any friends where we now were was really tough. I also didn’t have a job lined up before we moved, so I worked a part-time retail job for several months until I found something full-time. Those months of barely working really wore on me, my ex-husband worked 65+ hours a week so I was alone a lot. I watched a ton of television lol. I cooked a lot, cleaned a lot, and spent a lot of time alone visiting local markets, shops, etc. I was big into yoga before we moved, but I had a hard time finding a studio here where I felt welcomed. We eventually got another cat, we got engaged, I got a better job, we bought a house, got married, got a dog, and then got divorced by the time I was 29. At 25, I would have expected to be well on my way to child #2 with my ex by this time. 

Now I’m 31, have a career that I love, got back into my yoga practice, and I’m engaged to a wonderful man (who I’d never have met had I not moved here with my ex-husband).  Not at all how I pictured my late 20s going, but I honestly wouldn’t change a thing.

Post # 49
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Busy bee

I just turned 30 2 weeks ago. I was living with a man I was with for 3 years, wasn’t happy but stayed because I was scared of change. We did live a nice house and I would garden and loved that part. I was at the job I am now moving up. I was also so insecure as I was heavier back then. I had lost myself and alienated myself from family and friends. The relationship was toxic and I ended up leaving him a year later. I wasn’t financially stable either and had never lived on my own (without a boyfriend).

I learned a lot after that and I’m in a much better place now. I’m now a manager, financially stable, single but living on my own and much happier now 😉

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Interesting thread!

At 25, I married my high school sweetheart during the 3rd year of my PhD program. I also lost my sweet baby Boomer at 12 years old (canine cancer). Now at 27 (soon to be 28), I am a postdoc fellow, and will be starting law school in August. We also have a senior bonded pair in our lives, Gracie and Duffy. God bless my patient husband.

 

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

25…very hard time of my life.  I’m 39 now.  At 25 I was married for 4 years to my high school boyfriend.  We had a 4 and 3 year old. I was working partime as a nursing assistant and going to nursing school trying to get us to a Better financial place.  

Now Im a nurse supervisor, I’m divorced from two 6 year marriages. Finally with a man that had his stuff together and I’ve never been happier in my life. My kids are 16, 15, 11 and 6 and pretty well adjusted considering the peril of my personal life.  Their dad is involved with them and they still see my 2nd husband.  We’re good friends but a terrible couple. Life didn’t turn out the way I planned. But I wouldn’t change it.  I’m a successful adult now!

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m currently 25! I work the same full time job I have since I graduated college but I recently got a better position within the company.  My husband and I just bought a house and I’m hoping I’ll be pregnant before my 26th birthday. 

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

broke, jobless and single at the time when i turned 25… The economy went down the toilet for a second time when i just got out of trade school, i was only able to manage getting a pitiful paying job that treated me like crap. After a few months i was in misery and considered going back to college and starting over, or joining the Army. 

Luckily i gave myself a year and was able to find a much better job that made me happy and got back together with my now D.H. 

i did not have my sh*t together when i was 25, and most my friends had already finished college and had a career. 

Post # 54
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Bumble bee

25 was an interesting year for me, first part of the year I was dating someone for around 4 months. It was my first official same sex relationship as I only came out 18 months prior, she broke up with me after I had come back from Brazil where I had visited a friend/ex (was a very casual relationship a few years prior). So I was pretty depressed about that for a while and was really struggling in general with my mental health. 

I moved out of my parents’ house for the first time and was living in a house share, which gave me a lot more independence. Career wise I working as a biomedical scientist which I had done after finishing university, but the stress of the shifts and work load was taking its toll and I needed a career change. In September of that year I took a month off to travel around the US, which was the best decision I ever made, I had the time of my life. I came back in October and quit my permanent job to do agency because the money was amazing and I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. I moved 150 miles away on my first placement and hated it, at this point I had started dating my fiancée and around Xmas time a placement came up in the city she was living in and so I took it and made the crazy decision to move in with her after dating for 2/3 months. 

4 years later we’re engaged and buying a house and I’m on a competitive grad scheme retraining and doing my masters. I think 25 was a life changing year for me in many ways. 

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was just thinking about this! I am 35 now, so this goes back a ways.

 

I was in a job I absolutely hated. Hated it. Loved the people, hated the work, hated the commute, hated that I had a 4 year degree in accounting and was basically a glorified admin. At my 25th birthday I’d been with my boyfriend for about 2 months, and we would date another 7 months before he broke up with me. So age 25 had some high moments, and some pretty lows ones too. My social life was pretty good though back then, way better than now :).

 

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

That was nearly 20 years ago for me (yikes!). I had just finished a master’s degree in fine arts and was working and taking 2 years off before starting law school. I was seriously dating my ex husband and we got married two years later after moving to DC from the midwest. I guess I was happy, but a bit aimless. Sometimes I regret law school, but it brought me to DC where I met my now husband and the job I got as a result allows me to live a life I enjoy that includes travel, nights out, a house I love, and a certain amount of peace of mind. So, all in all, I’m happy with road I’ve taken.

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

loldol92 :  here you are judging using your first posts for this. Bitter much? Some of us were successful at 25. I guess others….not so much. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Post # 58
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Bumble bee

A lot happened when I was 25! I graduated college, moved to be with my boyfriend in Chicago, boyfriend then dumped me and I went on a trip to Japan with a good friend I had met there a year before. On the trip, my friend told me he had fallen in love with me and we had a little fling that went nowhere. I came back home, moved out of my boyfriend’s place, applied and got into graduate school. 

A little over 10 years later, and I am now engaged to that good friend and moved across the country to be with him. Amazing what happens in life!

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

25 was 2 years ago for me. I got engaged the month I turned 25 and married 2 months later. Bought my first house with my husband the same year a month before turning 26. I was already working in my current profession for 2 years and have 2 college degrees completed. I’m fortunate because I came from nothing and sacrificed a lot to get here. I have since promoted in my career and make more money than before. However, still don’t feel adulty. There’s more adultier adults adulting better than me. 😂

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