(Closed) Where are y'all skimping vs saving?

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
13 posts

We are spending the bulk of our money on the band and the venue (which includes food and booze). Everything else is contingent upon our money situation, so we may skip flowers, cake, other extras if we decide we want that money elsewhere (Like a honeymoon). Of course I’ll be purchasing a wedding dress, but I am keeping it to a budget of under $1800. Preferably less! 

We purposely chose a Sunday and got a break on both band and venue, which has helped immensely. But having a band was non negotiable for us, and that’s an expense that a lot of people cut by having a DJ. I’m lucky that I’m a professional wedding photographer, and a very talented pro friend is photographing my wedding as a gift.

Post # 4
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

We are chosing to nix Wedding Favors. Opting for Cupcakes and Cookies instead of a large wedding cake. A small wedding only. Brunch. No band just ipod music. 

Post # 6
13 posts

I ruled out a daytime wedding because I hate mornings LOL. A brunch event however is really classy and saves a lot of $$ since the drinking is much less. I could totally see doing that. We are considering a brunch for our “rehearsal dinner” since it will be less expensive and fun.

That’s such a bummer, msmeow13, about the band!!! I’m so sorry you didn’t get to book them. 

Our venue is a supper club/music venue so it has a lot of included things like linens, chairs, lighting. I truly chose the venue because SO MUCH is included. They even have some free stuff for the tables, if I want to use it (candles, etc). I haven’t had a tasting yet, but really if the food is just good (doesn’t have to be amazing) I will be pleased.

Post # 7
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

We are doing a resturant Sunday Brunch and basically, I just bought out the resturant, which includes a bloody mary and mimosa bar (both bottomless). There will be a made to order omolete station, a made to order waffle station a tray of bacon, fruit, cheese, crackers, clams and dessert. 

The play list has been easy. We started right away and my partner is doing most of it, that was the one job I gave him. A friend of mine is doing the “MC” work, though there is VERY little since we arent doing any formal dancing etc. Trying to keep it super low key

Post # 8
1814 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We skimped on our DJ, dancing isn’t important to us, neither of us enjoy dancing. We upgraded our food to include a sweet and seafood buffet and we  skimped on alcohol. We are having a signature drink and punch served at our cocktail hour. We are only serving beer and wine during dinner, and after dinner we will have all alcoholic beverages served

Post # 9
1155 posts
Bumble bee

1. No florist; I’ve made my own bouquets and centerpieces. (The wedding is peacock themed, so it’s not that hard to stick a couple of peacock feathers, which I purchased in bulk, in some vases, and bouquets were fun and easy to make as well.) $100

2. 8 cases of Two-Buck-Chuck from Trader Joe’s and a coupla kegs of beer from a local brewery. ~$600

3. Wedding dress from Ross Dress For Less (hehehe to anyone who saw the South Park episode); it has peacock feathers on it with a white base, and I couldn’t have found ANYTHING more perfectly matching my wedding theme. Seriously. Amazing. $9.99 

4. No hairdresser. (No one in my bridal party was excited about it anyway, and my mom and my fiance’s mom both have short hair, so.) I wear wigs, so I didn’t need it either. 

5. No makeup person. I know how to apply eyeliner and mascara. Good ’nuff. 

6. No silly chair decor. The ones that come with the venue are cute as is. 

7. My professional-DJ friend is the DJ. $600

8. My semi-professional-photographer friend is the photographer, and everyone else has iPhones. $100

9. No wedding cake. We got 9 dozen “Bundtinis” from Nothing Bundt Cakes (god damn AMAZING if you’ve never had them, and everyone is excited about it). $110

And the BIG secret to REALLY cutting costs? ….



10. Don’t allow tradition and expectations to dictate your choices. $0

Post # 10
28 posts

I’m “spending” on the catering, alcohol and marquee, because that’s what’s important and what people will remember. The food, drink and atmosphere.

Scrimping by:

-not having bridesmaids

-no makeup artist

-no Save the Date cards, I will juts text people the date then send a proper e-invite later.

-no Hen Party

-No flowers apart from centrepieces, as we’re having it in a garden

-No wedding car

-Photographer only for ceremony

-Cake will be done by a friend of a friend starting their business, so cheaper than usual

I just don’t think any of those things are important.

Post # 11
28 posts

I used to watch lots of makeup tutorials and I’d like to think I’m pretty good at doing makeup. I had it professionally done once and I hated it. I feel like no-one knows your face as well as you do. Same with hair – I’ll have a bridal trial but if I don’t like it, will happily do it myself.

Post # 12
515 posts
Busy bee

We worked out what was important to us in the beginning. Food, great venues and my dress!

We have booked a beautiful grand church for our wedding. Not cheap but it was always the place where we wanted to get married. 

Our reception venue is a dream and the food is amazing!! We will have a large bar tab.

My dress is expensive $3000 but mother in law used to work in a bridal designer shop so my dress even though it’s couture should be more like $8000. She got me an amazing price.

I hated the banquet chairs at my venue so have opted for those gold pinterest chairs. I’m in love with them.

We are getting our bridal bouquets made by a florist and I’m paying for my four bridesmaids + mum & I to have professional make-up and hair. We are all getting ready at home.

Savings –

We’ve saved money by buying flowers for the table centre pieces from the flower markets.

I’ve bought vintage vases from second hand shops and I’ll sell them after.

I’ve also bought candle dishes, fairy lights and silk hydrangeas for the church from aliexpress and I’ll sell these all after.

We have a friend who is a photographer doing our photos. We have a friend who is a dj using the mixing board that we bought for our engagement party and he will mix our songs with the playlists we create. 

Best man has access to fancy british cars from his in laws so we are using these for the wedding cars.

I’m getting an amazing three tier cake made. My lovely sister is going to add sugar flowers around the bottom.

So we have had some expensive items and some savings 

Post # 13
547 posts
Busy bee


1.  Time of Year-Getting married this Saturday, so we go off season pricing

2.  Photographer-Went with a less expensive photographer, and will mostly have a single shooter

3.  Cake-Small single tier cake to cut, sheet cake in the back for guests

4.  Dress-$450 from David’s Bridal


1. DJ-FI and I think that the DJ is probably the most important person in making your wedding run smoothly and be fun.  We splurged in who we got, and with premium sound.

2.  Shuttle Bus-We decided to provide transportation for our guests from the hotel block and the train station to the venue for guests coming from out of town.

3.  Raw Oysters and Craft Beer-Raw Oysters are one of FI’s and my favorite things.  Our venue is a waterfront New England venue, so we splurged by adding passed raw oysters on ice as one of our passed hors d’oeuvres.  Also, our venue includes a premium open bar, but the draft beer choices were not up to snuff for my beer snob Fiance and his beer snob friends, so we are also offering two craft beers on draft.

Post # 14
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I guess we’re skrimping on most things:


1. Dress cost under 800$

2. No band, only a playlist and several close friends who will sing a few songs

3. No favours

4. No save the dates, only invites

5. A friend will take photos

6. A naked cake which is what we wanted anyway and it’s much cheaper than more elaborate ones

7. Fairly unfancy food – antipasti and pizza

8. Wine and beer but liquor and cocktails aren’t included

9. No flowers. Best friend will make a paper flower bouquet and tables will be decorated with succulents and candles

10. No wedding car 

11. No bridesmaids etc

12. Most likely no stag/hen do (mayyybe I’ll get my nails done with my two best friends and my h2b might get a beer at his favourite pub)



1. Venue – it’s a very stylish Italian place. I’m sure we could have found somewhere cheaper

2. Taxi cabs – we can’t park in town, so we will call a cab from our house to courthouse/venue

Post # 15
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

We’re saving on the venue.  It’s only $850 for both of the buildings we booked in the Pioneer Village at the county museum, and it was our #1 pick from the beginning with cost not being a big concern at the time.  I fell in love with the chapel we booked from the first time I ever visited the museum 3 years ago, before I knew they rented it out for weddings.  Win win on everything venue related.  I couldn’t be happier.

Skimping by not hiring a dj.  We’ll put together a playlist via Spotify, give out the password to a couple of trusted guests, purchase a PA system from Costco, and we’re all set.  We’re having fh’s cousin MC for the few things we’ll need announced at the reception.  We’re not big on dancing so we’re aiming for more of a dinner party vibe since our guest count is around 50 and almost entirely older family members.

My two areas that I care most about are the cake and my dress.  We don’t need a three tier cake, but I want one, so that’s what we’ll be doing.  I’m not planning on going too extravagant with the dress but I want what I want when I want it.

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